Why not make something like "TransFemVoice@lemmy.blahaj.zone"?
Did you talk to your doctor about it not doing anything? It might very well because you're getting too low if a dosage. (DON'T INCREASE WITHOUT SUPERVISION THO!!)
I can't really judge if it's actually doing nothing or if you just can't see the change since it's a very slow and gradual process.
I'd be a little concerned about it being quite uncomfortable since bikinis usually are a different material, but it might be worth a try. Thanks
Thank you so much for the recommendation! Sad that there's nothing in person here tho, guess I have to put up with the shipping struggle...
I'm luckily in a position to not need to resort to Point of Pride - I'd rather have it go to someone who really needs the support.
As a transfem, it's probably not a surprise that I get disphoric about a certain area. Tucking normally doesn't really work for me because it leaves tape residue everywhere, hurts like hell to remove the tape and is super inconvenient (even though it's medical tape). My idea: there has to be at least some underwear that is specifically designed for tucking.
After googling for a good while, I found a couple of sites offering tucking underwear. The only issue is: the price is extremely high. Does anyone of you have experience with tucking underwear? What are your thoughts and can you recommend them? I don't wanna blow a ton of money on something that turns out to be only mediocre at best.
Along with that, does anyone have any sources to buy from in central Europe (online or in-person), specifically Austria/Vienna?
Holy shit, how didn't I know this exists? This is an amazing recourse. Thank you so much for this
I'm not much of a relationship person but having your close ones just vanish must hurt a ton. Especially at a time like this...
When the feelings get too much, (at least for me it helps if you) take your Blåhaj and imagine they're a human, like a close friend or family. >!or imagine me, even if you have no clue how I look like. After all, the Blåhaj connects us all!<
Don't apologize for this, it was super interesting to read. Thank you for the insight, we're all nerds here I feel like.
I mean, I am very new on here and the only related subreddit I am on is r/blahaj (and nothing stood out to me in OneTopic's videos so far). In any case, I'm very glad that I'm not alone in this.
I'll be honest and say that I know next to nothing about workout thingies. But my brother does. He once told me something that I think could have a lot of truth in it:
Workout is for building muscle. Losing weight is something you do in the kitchen.
I really don't want to encourage you to starve yourself tho. The best advice that I am able to give you is to maybe get into calorie counting.
Also, there is nothing wrong with being a little more on the bulky side. I've got several afab friends that are a little bigger and they still look amazing.
I'm luckily at a therapist that specializes in LGBT topics so I hope that my concerns are for nothing anyways. Oh how I wish I could just turn off attraction.
AGP (autogynophilia) is a debunked pseudo-scientific theory. I see that it still exists in your doubts.
What's even scarier is that I didn't even know that this was an official thing. So the existence of this was in my head without knowing what it was. Scary shit... Thank you for telling me this.
I'm not super stressed about finding out my sexuality anyways. I seriously have bigger fish to fry for the time being.
Have you tried possible affirmations, like a preferred name, pronouns, clothes? How did you feel?
I've tried a lot of things, actually. I mostly go by my chosen name (which feels kinda good), my chosen pronouns (which doesn't feel bad but it's kinda weird) and wearing affirming clothes feels fucking awesome.
a trans woman who is scared to do something or learn something that invalidates her.
I hate to say this but this is uncomfortably accurate...
Thank you tho c:
I'm glad I'm not alone in this. Thank you for the link, I'll give it a read once I've got a little more time.
I have been through quite the number of therapists too, so I know that there's everything from amazing therapists to wondering how they even got to be one. I'm actually quite happy with the one I'm currently with but I'll have to find a new one very soon for different reasons.
but I don’t think you should ever believe anybody who tells you something about that. Only you know what you want!
Yea, I believe so too, which is exactly why I'm asking this. I want to get as many perspectives from people to compare with my own feelings.
I sadly don't feel like I'm able to take breaks because some appointments are connected to other psychological stuff that I NEED to deal with as soon as possible. But generally speaking, you're right... Transitioning isn't a sprint.
Thank you so much. She's right, i gotta talk to my therapist about it... I'm probably overly scared about this anyways because he did tell me (multiple times) that I will get that write-off from him 100%.
Knowing that I'm not alone in this struggle is an immense amount of help, thank you. I think I'll take a screenshot of this comment and take a look at it whenever that feeling comes back. <3
(First time posting here, hi you cuties ^^/)
For context, I am 18 MtF but don’t have any medication yet because of the local healthcare system. To add to that, while I am in therapy, I’m afraid to talk to my therapist about this because I will need a confirmation from him that says that I can have HRT to actually get HRT. This puts me into this weird place where I very much should talk to my therapist about it but also shouldn’t because it might hinder me from getting hormones (I hate this system). Of course, I don’t want to replace my therapist with you, I just want some of your thoughts and experiences with this.
Long story short, pretty much everyone I’ve ever heard talk about this has always said that there is a difference between attraction and gender envy. The only issue is, this line doesn’t really exist for me.
If I think someone is cute, I can never really differentiate between the feeling of “I wish I was this cute” or “I wish they would hug me / I could hug them”. What makes all of this even more complicated is that I am very much unsure about my sexuality. Since the thought of sexual interactions actually kinda disgust me, I guess I’m ace? But then again, I also kinda feel an attraction to more feminine presenting people? Yet I am also open for any other, or no gender at all? And more importantly, is this feeling of wanting to be someone I think is cute just from me hating myself? Does that mean that I’m not trans? And why are other trans people saying that there is a difference?
Does anyone of you also struggle to find this line between attraction and gender envy? If yes, what does this feel for you? And if no, what are your thoughts on this?
PS.: You shouldn’t feel the need to validate me. The last thing I want is to be stuck in some sort of echo-chamber. If what you read, makes you think I’m not trans then please please please tell me so.
