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Damn, I don't have an answer, but that's a fucking great question. I had just assumed it would be the case, but never thought to ask about it.

Are we talking about the iris again?

I mean, back in the day, Japan had gone batshit, so someone of that era holding onto a bit of hate isn't that unusual, or even a sign of anything else.

It's like any time when a country goes batshit; people are going to hate that country for the rest of their lives, and it may apply to the people of that country too.

You think Ukrainians are going to be all lovey dovey about Russians any time soon? Iranians about the US or Israel? Palestinians about Israel?

No, those people are going to be raging for the rest of their lives. Maybe only inside, and not every person, but if there aren't people despising Israelis for the next fifty years, it would be a miracle. Fuck, there's people in countries that haven't been attacked by them that have turned from neutral or supportive of Israel into having a mad-on against the country.

Same with Russia, the US, and anyone else currently playing stupid fuck-fuck games with people's lives. The fuck do you expect? Humans hold onto anger. It's survival trait. "Those motherfuckers" fucked with you once, they'll do it again. And they will, because humans are some fucked up monkeys. We tend to fuck with other people a lot. So holding a grudge ain't exactly an irrational thing.

Don't think you hold any?

Here's a test: the only good nazi is a dead nazi. If you don't agree, then maybe you don't actually hold any historical grudges. Maybe you didn't pick it up from the people that saw that shit in real time. But most of those people are dead now, and the world hasn't forgotten that nazis suck.

My ass holds that grudge. Can't pretend otherwise. Then again, I haven't forgotten that nazis weren't all german either. Those fucking vermin infested all kinds of places even before the war.

You think in fifty years any surviving Palestinians' kids and grandkids will be all "oh, grandma, you don't have to say bad things about Israelis". Nah. Hell no. The only reason that the fake and gay people around the fake and gay granny in the text are objecting is because the Japanese got nuked and lost the war. If they'd nuked San Francisco, you really think you wouldn't occasionally at least think about slurs towards Japanese people? Maybe not. I doubt it, but it would be surprising. There's certainly people that hate the US for dropping those bombs, and we dropped them on the country that attacked us first.

Yeah, we gotta work to end bigotry in all its guises. But don't pretend that the anger and hate behind some of it isn't understandable, even if it isn't acceptable.

I mean, expecting someone to jump into working for someone else just for show is bullshit. Why the fuck would you want to go backwards just for an empty paycheck you don't need? Even if your passive income is from a shitty source, that still doesn't mean you have to just take a fucking job.

Now, if she had said something else, like maybe finding interests that fulfill you, that would be at least reasonable. But the way you've described it here, she be trippin.

If she's not fulfilled by her job enough to want to go do it regardless of necessity, why the fuck should anyone else?

If you were asking who's the asshole, it would be her.

But this isn't "am I the asshole" it's c/relationshipadvice

My advice?

Be blunt about it. Say up front that you have no desire to chase after a job just for the sake of working. If that's not okay by her, she knows where the door is.

Exactly! Otters and raccoons always lag behind on material sciences for just that reason

I mean, yeah, probably, but why would anyone trust those sources?

It's like magnets

I don't have enough info to tell if this is unpopular or not, but I bloody well agree. Not just for dads either; it applies to moms

Yeah, on average, that first interaction with a newborn by a parent right after birth is going to cause a massive oxytocin dump. All the stress and adrenaline during birth makes it even more likely for that to clinch the deal.

But it isn't certain, and there's a ton of things that can interfere. Plus, unlike moms, dads aren't always there. Life can throw barriers in the way of being present for the birth. Yeah, moms can be mentally absent and that's a barrier of its own, but we're kinda focusing on dads overall.

Even if everything goes perfect, not everyone is wired the same.

It's great when someone has that instant bonding, but it really does need to be better known that it isn't automatic, nor a sign of anything wrong

Critique and analysis of a study or experiment is the default. It isn't a religion; science thrives on repeat analysis.

Snanussy

Understand that most meals requiring this kind of etiquette tend to not have finger foods on the same plate as loose veggies or rice. So you're talking about a really niche thing.

I was taught that, other than bread, no food should be held in the hand while eating other food, and bread should only be used in that way with specific dishes, not as a general thing.

So, first option should be another utensil. That's what they're there for. It's unusual that you would have only one.

If that isn't present, then you would use another piece of food. You would ideally use a dry food, like toast or bread, but a breaded piece of meat served as a finger food would be acceptable if the dish is served without other utensils. It would be weird, but not unheard of.

However, you shouldn't finger the food at all. If the food isn't a finger food itself, and you've been provided a utensil, you would normally expect to just leave what can't be scooped up with said utensil.

All of that said, the best etiquette advice possible is: when in doubt, slow down and watch your host. There's really no situation outside in common etiquette where eating slowly is a bad thing. And, doing as one's host is doing is equally universally acceptable. So chew well, placing your utensils down on the plate and engage with the other people. Dinner parties of any significant scope are not about eating as the primary goal. The dinner is the setting for social interactions. So, unless the host or most of the table are just shoveling it in, you have time to estimate the accepted behavior. And, if they're shoveling it in, there's your answer.

Lmao!

It wasn't me

Aight, just a bit of background first.

Back in that era, there was a hip-hop subgenre called miami bass. There was an offshoot of that called booty bass. The difference is largely in the degree of rap over the beats, and the nature of the beats. This only matters because Miami at that time was pumping out some serious club bangers. Shit you could really dance to, but would also rattle windows blocks away when played loud.

Da dip was booty bass and a dance song. Like the twist, the macarena, the watusi, the tootsie roll, and other dance fads, the songs were meant to be danced to by the very dance the song was about.

Da dip is basically a modified grind. I put my hand upon your hip (literally), then I dip, you dip, we dip. Dipping in this context is better shown than described.

It's a dance simple enough even drunks, and white kids, can do it; but it's able to be elaborated on by more advanced dancers. Taken to an extreme, it runs fairly close to dirty dancing ala the movie of the same name. It's all hips and grinding of groins. In it's simplest version, it's a couples oriented version of a line dance.

And yes, you would indeed see people doing da dip. Not as popular as just straight up grinding on someone, but it definitely showed up when the song played, and when similar booty bass tracks would. It required less coordination than the tootsie roll or the butterfly for sure, so it saw a short degree of popularity.

Lemmy is neither private nor secure. Assume anything here can be seen by anyone in the world.

Which isn't some dire thing, it's just part of the decision making process

You pluck the hair. That's it.

If the hair was still in place after whatever injury caused the scab, then you pluck it, and the root comes out, it means the follicle was intact.

That in turn means that, assuming the motion doesn't remove pieces of the scab, that it's just like plucking any other hair.

That's not uncommon at the edges of scabs. People will pull away a scab, and the hair gets pulled out because it was partially buried in the scab. But you'll also see hairs poking through scabs at times.

That's it. Hair comes out, end of story.

Shower oranges are your friend

I'd take it!

Not too bad.

But I was fucking around while trying to learn to ride a bike. Went too fast, hit a bump on a dirt road. Went over the handlebars, slid face first a few feet into a ditch.

Now, like I said, I wasn't badly injured. It was all just scrapes and bruises. But they were deep scrapes from my forehead all the way down one side of my face, then my chest and belly, plus along the inner side of my right arm from trying to stop myself.

Every scrape was filled with dirt and gravel, which had to be picked out. Then it all needed flushing out. So by the time it was all done I was high from endorphins and crying and screaming, looked like a shredder had beaten the shit out of me, and was both throbbing and burning along the entire scraped section.

Then I had to go to school like that lol.

Gotta be possum. That shit is musky