Since this post was linked from another thread, @Difficult_Bit_1339, you've unfairly characterized @socialjusticewizard as a beehaw.org user coming here "trying to stir up shit" as you've phrased it. Their sh.itjust.works account predates their beehaw.org account by two weeks. This post, the one we're commenting on right now, is NOT clearly labeled as being the rules for vote posts. It's just named "changes." You should consider putting the rules for vote posts in the sidebar and in the vote posts themselves.

If you want to label me as a beehaw.org user coming here "trying to stir up shit," too, so be it. At least my first account was from beehaw.org, and I came here looking to see sh.itjust.works and lemmy.world posts. At this point, I'm entirely done with this instance based on the overall handling of this situation and will be using my @Quill7513@slrpnk.net account for the purposes this account was originally meant to serve. Here is some advice I have, as a sort of exit interview.

1. Be nicer. Come on. The way you moderate this community will influence the way this entire instance operates. Your rudeness and dismissiveness sets the tone for the entire instance and how people will perceive users with @sh.itjust.works as part of their identity
2. Define an executive process for defederation, just as you already have an executive process for moderation. Defederation is part of moderation and 1 month is not a fast turn around for this sort of situation
3. Increase the transparency of the audit scripts you're using to tally votes by linking a link to a git repo containing the script. I think it's fair to say that your automated script for what the vote talley is and what someone reading through the vote sees as being the vote results are quite different

Then why use a platform with federation / defederation as a core feature? Why not Nostr or SSB? Why activitypub?

No. People like tits.

Also good for confronting racist comments

Nah, UNIX certification requires paying money and almost all of the BSD spins said "That's dumb, we barely have money as it is"

In real life, you can filter by not hanging out with people who speak abusively about and to you. You can walk away. And yeah, sometimes those abusive people follow you. So a lot of them seek online support communities as a retreat from the abuse. Saying "they should just toughen up" misses on what their daily life is like, and that no one wants to be subject to constant unending abuse

I've been on the Fediverse since around 2015-2016 (don't remember if it was just before or just after I went back to school). It seems like a lot of the newbies here don't understand what the Fediverse is for and about. There's a lot of anger and hate that the Fediverse is supposed to be free and open and all the instances all federate with each other, and it's just like… No. That's not the point. Why would we even architect ActivityPub to have whitelist and blacklist functionalities if we didn't want server admins to be able to use them? The point of the fediverse is that you own your relationship to your server's moderators, and you pick your server's moderators based on their moderation style.

Think of it this way. On reddit, the administrators have full power over all communities. Don't like it? You are welcome to have no avenues to participate in any of the discussions. On the fediverse every server has a team that has full power of that small section of the internet. Don't like how they federate? Pick a different instance that better matches how you would like to interact with the fediverse. If you're angry that Beehaw is doing this, it just means Beehaw isn't a good fediverse home for you. You can just... Not go to beehaw for your fediverse needs. Do you like it here, but still want to see posts from Beehaw? Maybe an instance that federates with both is right for you. Because if you like what's on beehaw, to some extent, you are enjoying the community that is there because they like how things are run there. There is an extent to which you have common ground with those moderators. An instance that federates both there and here is saying "We like what both of these moderation teams are about."

Here's another way to think of it. Let's think about the internet as being the world. The Fediverse is one country in the world. Each project is like a city. You pick which city you want to live in based on what's going on in your life and how you want to go about things. Here in the Lemmy city (which is very near the KBin city. Think New York and Newark), every instance represents a house with a garden. When you move into the Lemmy, when you pick your instance you move into a house where your profile lives, and then you go hang out in the communities in the back garden. Who your administrators choose to let into the garden is just them creating the atmosphere they want for their garden party. And almost every Lemmy garden has defederated from someone. Almost every server has set up rules about what it takes to walk through the back gate to come kick it in the back garden. The largest instance with a fully open door policy is lemm.ee, not lemmy.world or sh.itjust.works. They're the 3rd largest instance overall.

All beehaw.org is saying is that our house is very crowded and their bouncer can't keep up with all the people trying to get into their garden party. And it's what makes the fediverse beautiful. That's the point of the fediverse.