Hi! Coming from another half asian, I personally find it more tasteful to ask "what is your ethnicity".

Wait, wasn't one of the main points of Europeans immigrating to America was for freedom of religion?

So gross! I can't believe he's out in the daylight. Every sentence I read just got worse and worse...

It's fresh water from the plumbing that gets sprayed on your butt. Like having a butt-exclusive shower with CLEAN water. I don't think you can even buy bidets that recycle shit water to spray your butt. That sounds awfully unhygienic. Are you OK, friend?

There's enough weird people out there. I am not giving anybody chances. The risk is too high for me. I don't think that it's because you don't want to understand. I think it's because you really can't understand due to the difference in our experiences. I don't know how to solve this so I will leave you to have a nice day!

I hear you. But what if we are talking about worst-case scenarios. Let's say both the bear and man wished me harm. I would choose the bear because with the 'bad bear', I would hope it kills me quick and eat me. But I fear the 'bad man' would do far worse than just killing me and eating me. If we can guarantee that both the bear and the man are 'good,' in the best-case scenario, then I imagine the man would be the better option! He would definitely be a better conversationalist anyhow!

Unfortunately, it is difficult to tell if a human stranger is 'good' or 'bad' on first sight. Would they give you enough time to figure it out?

But it's hard to know which bear will run away when you scream at it, and it's hard to know when a guy means well or not. I understand your point. But at the same time, from my own personal experience, I've had quite a few really scary and bad moments starting from age 10. And when your trust is broken, you can't help but be hyper vigilant. I love good men, and I am so happy I have good men in my life now. But I won't let my guard down anymore for other men because the risk is too high. It's hard to explain this to someone who hasn't had a creepy person trying to follow you home and been cat called when you're a preteen kid by middleaged men or been tripped up on purpose by a 60 year old man for him to pretend to "catch" you while squeezing your 15 year old boobs. I can't trust any more. I'm sorry. They let me down, and I need to protect myself. 😞

Edit: Apologies for format as phone user. Would like to add that the reason I personally chose bear is because of my past trauma and what I am aware of from other women who have unfortunately had far worse done to them. If sexual harassment/assault didn't exist at all, I reckon more women would pick man over the bear. Can only dream, can't I.

In the worst case scenario of such an encounter, and I mean worst case scenario: As a woman I would rather be mauled to death and eaten by a bear than be raped, killed, raped again, shared with his mates and ultimately possibly eaten by a man.

As a Lemmy lady, may I please be honest and lay bare my true feelings? Life is way too short to play coy. You snooze, you lose - right? Quite a few times where I've been read wrong for just trying to be a human being or just for talking about the fucking weather. If I wanted your cock, I swear to all the gods before you, I will be the first to let you know. If you've not heard back from me then there's your answer. I love this community and love you all. Stay safe out there.