Mossy Feathers (She/Her) @ MossyFeathers @pawb.social

Secretly an opossum.

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At least you're not having to wait a decade like I did. It sucks, but you'll survive.

Thank you so much. I'm not the only one who could use this; I have friends who also need a way out.

Thanks for the link!

Species dysphoria is a real thing. It's weird, I don't know why it exists, but I know it's real because I experience it. I have friends who experience it. I don't understand why people choose to gatekeep over something they don't understand.

Especially other trans people.

Like, damn, you're not gonna win over the people who hate trans people by giving them a peace offering of throwing people under the bus. Just accept that some people may find their species to be dysphoria-inducing like some people find their gender to be dysphoria-inducing. Why is it that hard?

Edit: I'll be honest, I don't think that species dysphoria makes you transgender, I think that's a misapplication of the gender concept; like trying to classify a fish as a mammal. You absolutely still count as trans imo tho.

I wish I could immigrate to the EU. Sadly afaik I'm considered completely worthless by the EU governments. Yay for being trans. Yay.

Edit: to explain, I don't have any marketable skills. I have some disabilities. So I'm stuck in the US as a trans person. No one's gonna take someone who has disabilities, and the fact that I'm trans means the longer I live in the US, the more likely it'll be that I'll be hauled off to El Salvador or Guantanamo.

Edit 2: on top of that, if they successfully ban gender affirming care in the US, which I bet they will, I'm not even sure I'm gonna bother trying to get refugee status anywhere. I'll probably just put a bullet through my head. I'm no one special, why would anyone want me, a worthless American?

At least you can have a pet rat and there are plenty of guides on what to feed them.

It's forcing an agenda or an "ideological war" in the same way the civil war was about states rights.

Yeah, it was about states rights: the right for non-slave states to choose not to return escaped slaves. That's a huge reason why the south got so pissy at the north, the north decided they didn't want to return slaves to the south; slavery wasn't legal in the north and so being an escaped slave in the north effectively meant you were a Freedman. The south didn't like that because they saw slaves as property that was basically "stealing itself".

Something similar is going on with trans rights, only it's even more complex than the factors leading to the civil war. It's about the right to do what you want with your own body. The right to be seen how you want to be seen, and treated how you want to be treated (yanno, within reason; I'm not gonna bow down to someone who claims to be a princess and kiss her feet, but I will call her a princess if she asks). These are, in my opinion, basic human rights and as such, attempting to state anything else is "The Agenda". Unsurprisingly, history repeats itself and the bigots are now attempting to force their agenda and ideology on others while claiming the other side is the one doing it (this, btw, is called projection).

Note: there are a ton of different cultural factors that make bigots believe that they are right and everyone else is wrong. Tbh, I don't really want to get into that because I'd be writing pages instead of paragraphs. However, a lot of it in the US specifically has to do with religion and adherence to tradition; and how as life gets harder, people adhere more and more strongly to tradition. Well, life's getting hard for the average American. They're feeling increasingly squeezed for time and money, so out goes rationality and empathy, and in comes tradition and religion.

It's hard to accept change when you feel that change brings more bad than good.

Btw, if you and your sister are both AFAB then, for the love of god, support her. As a trans woman who didn't start transitioning until she was 30, it would have meant a lot to me and radically changed my life if I'd had friends I was comfortable truly being myself around; and it means a hell of a lot more if the support is coming from your peers (in this case, female classmates, especially cisfem classmates).

It's scary as fuck being trans, and I won't lie, cis women are intimidating. I don't really give a shit about how cis men see me. In my head, cis-women are the ultimate judge of who gets to be called "a woman" and it makes me feel like a little part of my soul dies every time I'm rejected. Like, I'm sorry I wasn't born pretty. I'm sorry I was born with a penis, and I have wide shoulders and narrow hips and my tits are still tiny because I just started hrt. I can't help it and there's only so much I can physically change. Anything else is too expensive.

I just want to be myself and be accepted for it.

Treat her as her preferred gender. Make her forget she was AMAB and the bigotry of the world around her. Invite her to girls nights, let her try on clothes and do a cute little spin when she puts on a skirt. Help her do make up and braid her hair (if it's long enough). Play games together, watch movies together, treat her as one of you. Be her friend's "cool big sister".

And when life kicks her in the balls for being "a man", make sure you and your sister give her a shoulder to cry on. Remind her that, when it comes to human anatomy, a penis is almost literally just a huge clit. No, seriously. Fetuses start out with female genitalia regardless of chromosomes, and then the female genitals turn into male genitals before birth (if you have XY chromosomes, usually). So she doesn't have a penis, just has a very well endowed clitoris.

Do that and you might also find other trans gals (and possibly trans guys and non-binary pals) congregating around you. Your sister's friend may feel like they can be more open about being trans, but not everyone does. For every trans person who lives out of the closet, there are probably 5 more who are too scared to be their best selves out of fear of rejection. Publically showing acceptance will help others feel accepted themselves (and in turn, help them to accept themselves, because that's a really hard thing to do). Public acceptance also helps normalize being trans as being "Just A Thing Some Humans Do", which helps fight against bigotry itself.

Join the revolution, fight against bigotry, hug a tr*nny.

Edit: also, if she's old enough, make sure knows she still needs to use condoms if she wants to top (or her partner if she's a bottom and likes penises). Just because she's a girl doesn't mean she can't get other gals pregnant, and STDs are still very much a thing. You gotta be on hrt for the sperm to stop swimming and even then it takes a little while for that to happen. I personally wouldn't take the risk (and that's ignoring the possibility of STDs).

Edit 2: oh! I almost forgot, this is one of my favorite resources to send people who are questioning or want to understand more about what we go through. Give it a read and consider sending it to your sister and her friend as well. There will be kids who use it against your sister's friend and other trans kids at her school, so keep an eye out for people getting bullied; buuuuut it'll tell you about the different ways dysphoria can manifest, why gender affirming care is important, and the kinds of changes hrt can bring for those questioning.

No, she's just a bully and an asshole. If you sister can't kick her ass, kick her ass yourself and help your sister find better friends. Your sister probably needs the support, otherwise she probably wouldn't be """friends""" with people like that.

God meant for opossums to be pets and just wanted humans to do some selective breeding to increase their lifespans.

Humans decided their fur was too soft and they looked too much like rats. Obviously the only course of action was to kill them.

I love humans /s

I imagine this creature would probably be almost entirely invisible under water and look like just a pair of eyes and a spine.

What if there are bigger fish?

You need a bell. Every collar needs a bell. uwu

Mine sounds very pretty.

...are these pictures meant to be arousing? If not then...

Ew. Why the fuck do you jerk off to pictures of normal people? That's creepy as fuck. I'm saying this as a furfg and monster fucker who's probably gotten off to shit that'd give you nightmares. What the fuck is wrong with you? Don't do that. That's gross, disgusting behavior and I feel violated now that you've put the possibility of someone having jerked off to me without my consent in my head. God, that's gross.

If those pictures weren't mean to be wank material then she should leave you OP; not because of you """cheating""" because you look at porn, but because you're being a fucking creep and jerking off to people without their consent. You need help.

However, if the images were meant to be arousing, then yeah, I'll be honest, she's kinda overreacting. Only kinda though. It's still weird that you're jerking off to people that you know and I can understand some level of jealousy simply because they're people you know; but I wouldn't consider that cheating either. Then again, I tend to be more open with people.

In my experience, seniors make great indirect protestors. My grandmother would be complaining non-stop to anyone within earshot. The times when she won't stop complaining about something work on my parents, at least.

Throw in the fact that many seniors would suddenly become financially dependent on family, and you're gonna have a lot of pissed off adults who're already financially struggling and now they have to pay for Grandma, Grandpa, Meemaw and Peepaw too.

What does SnootButter do?

shrug Idk if it's really that insane. Tbh I'm not convinced the hype isn't being manufactured. I have a cousin who's a pretty bog standard, flavor-of-the-month gamer, and he's said nothing about GTA VI.

Not saying you're necessarily wrong, I guess, just that something seems off.

No, I'm honestly surprised. I've barely heard anything about GTA VI. Seriously. I don't care about it, none of my friends have talked about it despite being the kinda game that they'd be into, and I've only seen one or two articles on it.

You sure it's that highly anticipated? My observation is that people have gotten really sick and tired of AAA games, and this is a shift that's occurred since RDR2 came out. Very few of the people I know still regularly play AAA games, and those who do almost never buy them on launch. I haven't seen anywhere near the same amount of hype for GTA VI as I saw for GTA IV or GTA V.

You're accusing me of being disingenuous? Maybe you're the one who's buying into the hype and overestimating public interest. Or perhaps the true answer is somewhere in the middle. Who knows. I was not intentionally downplaying your favorite series though.

Wait, do people still get excited for GTA? I thought GTA V online killed a lot of goodwill for the series.

I'm stuck in Texas. Wanna give me a way out too?

Uh, what? Are you sure you're commenting on the correct article? I can't find what you're talking about.

I'm a trans woman living in Texas. How do you think I feel? No one's having a good time right now, buddy. I fully anticipate that I will be dead or in a concentration camp within one or two years because, as of right now, I have no way to escape and I'm still working on trying to find groups to organize with.

As far as I'm concerned, my days are numbered.

I have no future.

At least there's a chance that they'll get distracted by some shiny new thing and won't invade Canada.

No one's having a good time right now.