Mods vs. Community: The 196 Migration Meltdown
Once again asking you at what point someone deserves to be misgendered? If it's because of troll behavior? Congratulations, you are literally telling me basic human decency depends on if someone perceives me as a troll or not.
Is drag doing that? Or are you just trying to find a flimsy excuse to misgender someone? Because you still have yet to tell me why specifically Drag deserves to get drag's pronouns disrespected. And being an asshole should not be a reason as stated before
I don't get them either, but that's the important part, just because you don't understand them doesn't mean it gives you a free pass to ignore/invalidate them.
I myself consider it/it's pronouns to be extremely weird, but does that mean I misgender the people who use them? No, obviously not, because that is rude.
Even if it's silly, using neopronouns is much less of a hassle than people think it is. Drag's are extremely simple at that too.
Yes, because it's still misgendering. If we allow ourselves to misgender someone because they're an asshole, then what the hell makes us better than open transphobes? Please explain to me how misgendering drag is different from misgendering my good friend using neopronouns who isn't a troll? How can you misgender drag, just to turn around and tell me that you respect me? If drag can somehow lose the respect to be gendered properly, what does that mean for me? At what point am I considered too much of an asshole to be given the basic human courtesy of having my pronouns respected?
I'm sorry, but dealbreakers are dealbreakers for a reason. And dealbreakers aren't stuff that should be treated like it can be changed easily. Dealbreakers are things like political alignments, interest in having children, marriage and other stuff.
And asking women to give a guy they don't like "just a chance" has not done anything ever for anyone, seriously. The amount of times I hear about women giving the "weird guy" a second chance has always ended in the guy either seriously overstepping boundaries or taking the later rejection even worse. I have yet to meet a "weird guy" who hasn't done something seriously heinous later down the line.
And I am certain you didn't mean it that way, but saying "It's ok for you to help your dates avoid these" makes it sound like you're advocating for invalidating womens opinions, as if they can't make decisions for themselves and need help from a man to make the "right" one.
Mood, mein Vater musste mal als Problemkunde im System markiert werden bis wir endlich nen Techniker gekriegt haben der sich die Sache mal richtig angeschaut hat und nicht nur einmal Gerät gezückt, gemessen und wieder abgehauen ist.
Der darauffolgende Techniker hat sich dann gewundert warum wir Problemkunden waren und hat mir als neugieriges Kind sogar erklärt wie ein Dämpfer in der Leitung genau funktioniert
Mein eigenes Problem ist dass trotz angeblicher Akzeptanz, Männer/Väter sich häufig noch der Kindersache entziehen. Oder sogar in einigen Fällen sich über Väter die sich engagieren wollen oder tuen, sich dann lustig gemacht wird.
Ich kenne selber einen Vater der derzeit aufgrund von Langzeitkrankschreibung (nein, er ist nicht stark eingeschränkt) und entsprechender Freizeit sich nen Dreck um die eigenen Kinder kümmert, dennoch aber immer davon erzählt wie wichtig es doch ist als Vater sich um die Kinder auch zu kümmern.
Desweiteren kenne ich einen anderen Vater der sich liebevoll ums Kind kümmert, allerdings dafür dann hinter seinem Rücken gelästert wird. Oft höre ich dann so etwas wie: Warum denn seine Frau nicht dabei wäre und wieso er denn immer mit dem Kind alleine unterwegs sei. Diese nervigen Kommentare kommen häufig von beiden Geschlechtern.
Wundere mich auch. Beeindruckend viele hier die denken dass Gleichberechtigung nur mit Emotionen zu tun hat.
Dass man immer noch oft genug sieht wie Frauen die einzigen sind die zum Beispiel dem Kind die Windel wechseln, weil der Vater es "eklig" findet, fällt vielen gar nicht auf.
Auch habe ich von sehr linken Männern und sogar Frauen mitgekriegt, wie sich über Männer die sich besonders engagieren um der zukünftigen Mutter zu helfen lustig gemacht wird.
Es ist eine Schande
Love how drag lives rent free in your head. Seriously, get a hobby dude, obsessing about a trans person this much is not healthy.
At any point you could have simply blocked drag, but no, engaging with drag is so much better, isn't it? Now you've made posts upon posts and comments upon comments about how blahaj is weird, about how drag does not deserve to have drag's pronouns respected, and how admins/mods/whatever on blahaj are bad.
To what end? To tell the greater user base that your opinion is superior? To make it known that drag is weird and in turn potentially cause drag to be harassed? To have the admins and mods be harassed? To have individual users with non-standard pronouns harassed?
You say you don't care and wish Blahaj well, but your posts and comments say otherwise. My friend, it might not have been your goal, but your posts and comments are rather inciting in nature, people will get harassed because of you.
Just because someone might not have the same opinions as you, or even in some cases opinions you consider dead wrong it doesn't mean they are always wrong.
Think of political parties, in one case a party you usually align yourself with makes a terrible decision, and in another case a party you hate makes a decision you would wholeheartedly support. Does that mean your prior preferred party is suddenly on the same level as your hated party? Depends, of course, but we can't deny that we can't expect everyone to share the exact same values as us. Variety is the spice of life, and sometimes even someone we consider to be right/wrong will surprise us in negative or positive ways.
Haha, look who it is. Love the article, a few of my friends have realized they also might be agender from it.
Lots of people in here who don't get pronouns or trans people, for those I recommend this article:
There's a very real chance you guys might be agender cis, which is super fascinating because it's barely looked into, due to how agender cis people usually don't even know that their experience isn't universal.
Happy to be of service!
I know suddenly being told your experience isn't universal might be scary, but know that when you finally realize who you truly are, I'd be more than happy to help you figure yourself out.
I know suddenly being told your experience isn't universal might be scary. But cis people do in fact care about their pronouns. If you don't, well, I'm sorry to say it, but you are part of what you perceive as less than 1%. Which btw, is most likely a lot more than 1%
Funfact, cis people do care about what pronouns are used for them, considering you apparently don't, this could mean you're actually agender! Cool, right? Gender can be really fascinating once you start taking apart society's expectations and rules.
You might be a cis agender person considering how you talk about gender. Fascinating stuff imo.
Yeah, a few. Some use more out there ones too. Not my place to judge though obviously