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  • You may need to update your "no brainier"

    As those of us who scroll in bed have long known:

    One study, published in the National Sleep Foundation’s journal, Sleep Health, investigated iPhone use in young adults before bed and found no significant differences in sleep outcomes regardless of whether subjects used a phone with a less-blue display, a normal display or no phone at all.

    Several studies have suggested blue light emissions suppress the production of the sleep-promoting hormone, melatonin. But researchers now say these effects are not as extreme as previously believed, amounting to, at most, a 10-minute delay due to screen use.

    https://nypost.com/2024/05/30/lifestyle/screentime-before-bed-could-be-less-harmful-than-earlier-thought/

  • Trump Pressures Republicans to Pass a Law to Keep Him Out of Jail Forever
  • I'm guessing fast lefters don't even click on posts about Trump at all. It's like he's not relevant to them ( especially the ones delusional enough to suggest not voting for Biden, it's like they've totally forgotten that means we end up with trump)

  • What's the most seeming trivial thing you'll turn down a GF or BF for?
  • My brother's last three serious relationships all have hadthe same name. It's not his fault that name was popular 3 years after he was born. The girls are nothing alike.

    That said it's a struggle not to call the current one New "Sarah"

  • What's the most notable skill a GF or BF taught you?
  • My ex (though really his mom i guess) taught me you can just run a half empty dishwasher. I grew up without a lot of money, so we weren't running the dishwasher until it was full (big family, so pretty often). But when you're one or two people, it never fills up so I was just hand washing dishes, hating my life. They ran the dishwasher every night no matter how full or empty it was. At 9pm, the dishwasher started. It's stupid to say it changed my life, but now I just run it whenever I want. I also run my washing machine all the time and folding half loads is so much better, I no longer hate laundry.

  • The Biden Campaign Has a Trump-Fatigue Problem
  • Morally impossible? Geez I guess we should just get ready for more genocide with a side of human rights violations all over our shores too. Sorry, women, black Americans, and immigrants, Democrats would rather make a show of their morals than pick the much much much lesser of two evils. Big picture doesn't matter here.

    If we had to pick a candidate who aligns with all our morals, no one would ever vote. Vote for Biden, and then to make a difference fight on your local level(city) for ranked choice voting! Once you win that fight, try to get it enacted in your county. Do not waste your vote on Trump over this. That's what staying home or voting independent will do, and once Trump wins, you'll regret it. (Trust me, I fucked up and voted independent in 2016 for my "morals" Never again.)

  • Woman killed by her two XL bully dogs at home in east London
  • Some dogs get older and I assume confused and just snap. My grandmother's dog, sweetest girl, golden retriever, service dog, previously good with other animals and cats. My Grandmom brought home a kitten and the dog mauled it. Do not trust dogs. Just like people they can do something totally out of character.

  • It's not fair.
  • Please be conscientious if you choose to use a coping method like this. Some estimates put misophonia as prevalent as affecting 1 in 5 people. Your chewing on something to calm yourself down may be setting off full fight or flight in the person next to you.

  • Best Lemmy App in 2024
  • I cannot understand why anyone would use an app with Ads when connect has none and it's free! After getting used to no ads, pure content, I would hate to go back.

    I used to use boost for Reddit, but I'm securely in the connect camp now.

  • California says restaurants must bake all of their add-on fees into menu prices
  • I'm not saying those things are morally worse or something, I'm just responding to OPs question about what merits a tip. I'm just outlining the etiquette.

    If you have above average service needs, that's when a tip is appropriate. It's not your fault you have an allergy, but it creates more work, so a tip is appropriate.

    Also it's very common for waiters to tip out kitchen staff

  • nuanceposting
  • Honestly I think if you gave them the same choice, they'd pick bear too. Bear or a man who has on average 75% more muscle mass and 90% more strength than you. He is also 93% likely to be gay. Now you might be in the forest with your nice and normal gay neighbor and have a totally lovely time! Or you might get one of those gay priests who just want to rape you repeatedly. Which do you pick? Man or bear?

    That's a lot closer to the choice women are making.

    Source on average difference of male to female strength https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/02/200205132404.htm

  • Renters need to make roughly $20,000 more a year to afford the typical rent than they did 5 years ago
  • I want to throw up. Rent at the shittiest, drug user filled, mushroom growing out of your shower ceiling, tiny bathroom, kitchen almost non existent, 1 bedroom, view of the apartment across the "courtyard" in my city is more than 10k a year (and that was several years ago). USA

  • California says restaurants must bake all of their add-on fees into menu prices
  • Good service is anything outside what you just said. Did you need to ask for any changes/ substitutions? Did you have an allergy they had to accommodate? Are you on a rush and they brought it out quickly for you? Are you splitting the bill? Are there children in your party? Did anyone leave a mess or did a drink spill? Were they extra helpful with recommendations? All these merit a tip. If they do exactly as you said and you were an easy customer, no tip needed (assuming you're in a country where tipping isn't customary)

  • Maybe an injection or pill?
  • Currently up while my baby sleeps next to me. Some of us put the baby to bed and then lie in a dark silent room for two hours then wake up at 4am to feed the baby and are up 2 more hours.

  • Daughters and Fathers
  • So much nice advice here. I'm turning 30 this month and my dad and I continue to be very close. Top things I'm grateful for about my dad:

    My dad is always lifting me up, but he did not and does not give me empty praise. He to this day gives me compliments about specific things he notices, which is amazing for my self esteem. Some examples: While I was cleaning the other day and kind of barking directions : "I love it when you get in the zone like this. It's like you can accomplish anything" or "that's something I have always been in awe of about you; you somehow know when people are down and figure out a way to lift them up. You're very intuitive about it." Or during a long day of hard work, " you're like a machine! You're incredible. Do you need anything?" Complimenting every little thing will just make her not trust your compliments. Being specific and accurate in your praise will help her feel truly good about herself and also strengthen your bond.

    Idk what it's like if it's a step daughter and not a bio daughter but my dad would take me out. We never called it daddy daughter dates or anything (ew) but he would take me to dinner and a movie, or buy me flowers, or stop for coffee or ice cream at local shops. If we had to go somewhere for work or to pick up something for a home project he'd just stop at a bookstore and say this place looks cool, want to procrastinate a little in here with me? I know he loves to spend real time with me and he's always opening me up to new places/hobbies

    MOST IMPORTANTLY: my dad adores and dotes on my mom. There is nothing he won't do for her. He will help her with the same problem a hundred times. He will make her coffee just the way she likes it every morning. He spoils her, he relies on her, he treats her like he is lucky to be around her, and that helps me to know exactly how I should be treated. I don't allow anyone to mistreat me, not partners, not coworkers, not friends or in-laws. I know what a healthy relationship looks like, and I know what a partnership of respect and love looks like. My parents argue in front of me, sure, but I never ever doubt how much they love each other.

  • At some point it's got to be easier to get it over with and just do the damn dishes.
  • I don't think it's the soap and scrubbing that's keeping these dishes from being washed immediately, it's the stopping what you're doing, stand up and bring the soak to the sink immediately that's stopping people. That said I WISH my husband would just Rinse things immediately. He is using the pan literally two feet away from the sink! Just turn and rinse it out while it's still hot!

  • Advice on finding a partner?
  • Yeah, I think sometimes people hear stop looking for a bf/gf and hear stop meeting people. The trick is to focus on bettering yourself and/or being happy outside of a relationship and your natural boost in confidence and value will likely get you out of your relationship slump. If you're actively pursuing friendships with no stakes beyond genuine enjoyment, I think it does up your chances.

    Also people hear stop looking for a relationship, and hear stop dating. I think it can mean just stop looking for the one. Stop looking for someone who completes you. Take your foot off the gas, be open to a shorter relationship or fling. You might be surprised what you find in a relationship when there's no pressure for it to work. My sister and I both found our husbands in relationships we thought were definitely going to only be short term.

  • Issue where commenting refreshes post

    Is anyone else having the issue where you're 30 comments deep into a post, you reply to a comment and when you submit it refreshes the whole post making you lose your spot in the comments?

    Is there anything I can do to prevent this?

    I'm on a Google Pixel if that's relevant.

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