I don't think there is any active place in lemmy for that, unfortunately.

Porn makes the look more interesting than personality, and in real life I think it's the opposite. I definitely sometimes enjoy porn with 20 something guys too, but I don't see myself going out with them, even if I was single.

Thank you for your insight!

Yes I've found it too, and came to the same conclusion.

Oh I just noticed the post before me is very similar. I did some research but focused on chat and not communities.