Barx [none/use name] @ Barx @hexbear.net

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Oh no not my health insurance CEOrinos.

Makes sense! Lots of people have to deal with that feeling and way of being socially. It sucks but it really can help to find like-minded folks, partake in generous self-care, and try the small steps strategy.

Let me know if you want to talk more! It's also 100% cool if you'd like a break from this convo or want to go in another direction.

All I'm saying is that it is good for every CEO to be afraid.

Probably a juvenile skinny (or wet) cougar

The IDF killed an American in The West Bank a couple months ago, a woman there in solidarity with Palestine, and the US is slow-walking it, releasing no statement like this.

Matt just has a saliva fetish. Don't kink shame him.

It might help to break the possibility of a negative outcome down into pieces and process them a bit in advance, too.

Most of the time it will probably go fine and even if you perceive negativity it might not really be there. In other words, you might be prematurely catastrophizing, which is no fun at all for you. Just thinking about and recognizing and reflecting on this possibility can be helpful, and so can verbalizing it. Even just to yourself!So you say you don't want chicken and someone replies, "why, not, it's so good!?" like you're being weird. That's probably okay, they're probably just socializing a little awkwardly and it doesn't reflect on you even though it feels negative. "Not feeling it" with a smile probably diffuses the situation and you can begin to relax. Think of the relaxation part of that fake conversation and replay it a few times in your mind. This can help you out when something real happens, it can turn a social pothole into a minor bump that you can easily roll past (over time!).

But let's say it isn't just catastrophizing, sometimes an outcome is actually negative and you're not in a place to deal with it. That is also valid, and also not fun at all. People try to deal with this in various ways. Sometimes they get aggressive and pick at people defensively, though it sounds like this isn't what you're doing. Would you say it is accurate to describe it as withdrawing or trying to roll with uncomfortable situations, to "put up" with them to avoid potentially negative outcomes? Are you feeling frustration or other negative feelings because you feel a little like a doormat? I'm just guessing, asking questions, because not all of this may apply. And again, it is valid to feel or not feel these ways and I am only giving suggestions because it's something bothering you. If some of these things apply, you might be interested in looking into the psychology of "people pleasing", as it probably overlaps with some of what you are experiencing. I would summarize it as trying to make do and adapt to others and their perspectives and needs to a point where it boomerangs back to bite us. And again, this is valid and not a negative epithet even though it has a name! You may find that at least some of the concept resonates with you and just finding compatriots that experience the same thing can be invaluable for finding strategies that work for you to feel better or more comfortable in the situations you want to tackle.

Or maybe it won't resonate completely! That's also cool. If it doesn't, identifying what doesn't fit is also useful

It would be some esoteric Debord reference

Nerds with a rudimentary understanding of undergrad stats do this all the time with extra steps by just building a simplistic model based on (racist) "crime data". Sometimes literally just a basic Bayesian model.

And they get hired by Palantir to do versions of that for $300k/year.

I don't know if it's obvious to folks here or not but these are common for doping silicon chips so they can work as computers. Similarly useful for solar panels.

If US chip companies don't have substantial backup stocks they're screwed.

Marx would be committing welfare fraud so he could spend his time writing theory at 4 AM and strudently interrupting the local DSA meeting to call everyone except those in his subgroup a modern term for idealists that he just made up.

Behold, liberals

Oh sorry I totally misunderstood. I try to be careful with advice on direct interpersonal interactions because I prefer to first validate what you're experiencing and also because it often depends on the person.

Would you say that experiences like this give you anxiety, so you avoid them? If so, is it the anticipation of experience itself that induces anxiety or is it concern over negative outcome? Or is it more about preferring to avoid any kind of confrontation?

One thing that can help in general is to take small steps to get to your goal. Spend some time thinking about what situations like this would only be a little uncomfortable, but not a lot, and that you can have control over initiating. And plan out how you want to approach the situation. In all situations, I recommend projecting the emotion of the response you want to receive. For example, smiling can help when asking for something and many people will reflexively smile in response and assume this will be a friendly interaction.

But I might be getting ahead of myself again and I should really wait for your response.

What are you thinking of when you say, "make a scene"? Is it you as an individual doing something alone or are you thinking of organizing a collective action? I would recommend doing the latter. And of you're doing the latter, you just need one person to be comfortable with a megaphone, it doesn't need to be you. Disruption is mostly about physically blocking something, too, and less about the speech. It's okay to focus on speech, but that part of an event is more of a rally than a disruption. Organization is the real ticket, you will want to line up friendly media, be prepared with talking points, etc. Also consider starting small so you can get practice with lower stakes.

Can't hunt the hunter

The smartest approach to regular expressions is to think about how to avoid needing them in the first place and that is exactly what this bazinga brain will be avoiding now.

The next is that if you do need regular expressions, keep it simple. If your regex is complex, you probably should have broken it down into multiple separate steps and sub-searches.

The next is that if you have determined you do need a very complicated regex, you should probably be writing a parser or using a parser generator so that it can be understood, improved, debugged, etc.

This bazinga is going to be getting a bunch of complex, non-debuggable regexes that are probably subtly wrong.

Even the trains are vegan. Because of woke.

Will do!

The writing on the side just says, "beer". No marketing or branding. It's just beer, yo. Come and get it.

Kenji has nice cooking videos but he is also petty bourgeois and anti-union.

Edit: figured folks might wonder what I mean by anti-union and in my attempt to find anything I see a YouTube video where he wrote "support unions" in thr description. But I swear I remember him basically saying he doesn't think unions are a right fit for his restaurants and whether a shop deserves a union or not depends on the industry. This would have been before or around when he moved to Seattle.