I've been really struggling to unplug my brain after a heavy week at work and I always overthink my free time, to the point where I don't know what I'd prefer to do.
What's your 'go to' way to relax or disconnect from real life?
Podcasts. I have a very aural internal experience and just having someone else’s voice in my head helps a lot.
Video games. There’s so much science put into making video games an escape it’s almost like cheating. If you look at them as an engineered tool designed for escapism it’s kind of amazing.
Gardening. Takes a certain amount of privilege in space, money and patience but it hits a very deep evolutionary satisfaction.
Nature. Just get as deep into trees as you can and then sit or walk. Find a tree that you like and keep visiting it through the year. Watch how things change through the season and how it fights a fungus or feeds the birds. Connect to an ephemeral but living thing in an implicitly liminal space to disconnect from your constructed reality.
Making something. Shelves are easy. Pizza or pie is just involved enough but not too much effort. Good for iteration and practice too. Lots of people do Lego or puzzles. I enjoyed 3d printing but it’s a major time investment thats hard to maintain.
Watching a long (ideally 30 minutes or longer) Youtube video from the few content creators I like.
Things like Real Life Lore or other geography/history content
Trying to drink a single beer or glass of scotch in between feeding my dogs, walking my dogs, scarfing down dinner, getting my 2 year old to eat something, wrangling my 2 year old into a bath and then PJs, making sure my 3 month old is taken care of, etc.
Others might joke or not joke and say drugs or alcohol, but with the risks of injury in those (and I’m not really a huge fan anyways) I’ll suggest some other stuff. I really like working out in some way, hiking, kayaking, sports, or just the gym. Really helps unwind and destress. Getting on a trail and turning off your notifications really does wonders. I also game and finding a decent game isn’t always easy, but it’s easy to get lost in a game and forget about real life. Treat yourself! If you have money to go out to eat or pickup some cheapo takeout do it. You worked hard, you deserve it.
Can’t really think of anything else that I do, good luck hope something in this thread helps.
Old school RuneScape, there’s a reason you see it’s communities being super popular. It has a ton of activities ranging from completely mindless (good for movie/video watching) to extremely engaging depending on your flavor.
It’s not out yet, but the studio has a long history of making engaging and interesting worlds, so Starfield. It’ll probably have some bugs on launch in a few days, but I trust the game will be great. This leads to the fact that any game with a good universe or story helps. So Skyrim and fallout universe games I highly recommend.
Finally I’ll suggest some typical relaxing games. People like stardew, I’m not a fan and there are many clones that do things different so that’s an option. Give slime rancher a go, it’s a super cute game that’s really just incredibly relaxing. Pokémon or any of the clones is also super relaxing.
Listen to music. It allows you to enjoy something without having to use your eyes, especially if you’re in front of a screen the entire day. You can either close your eyes and rest, or just stare outside your window to refresh your vision.
i vape a lot of weed (all day everyday its not good habit). i used to use a funky chemical every so often that i considered to be like hitting restart for my brain but i dont use that anymore haha
most my friends have been shitty throughout my life so its hard for me to trust new people enough to be friends. i had a good few friends id hangout with and i was dating one of them but we broke up a month ago, and i dont really talk to them anymore, except one but i feel shitty because its my ex's friend and i feel like im inadvertendly hurting my ex which i also dont want to do.
my closest friend decided to take a gap year coz uni is stressful
so im kinda down to nobody haha. its ok tho i climb and other folks climb with me so i get my social interaction there
i dont feel comfortable just talking to people randomly i feel like theyd think im weird for randomly reaching out even tho thats prolly not true. i cant be certain.
i have a lot of anxiety n stuff lol but my ex made me have panic attacks every other day. not because of her intentions just my anxiety making me crazy. we have no bad blood tho i dont think.
I love my aquarium. I start every weekend by doing a water change, trimming the plants, and just spending some time admiring the fish in silence. Its a nice way to let go of the week.
After a long day, usually just extra thc in one form or another. After a long week, I need some walking with headphones time. I walk or run around the neighborhood listening to music, thinking and feeling. When the weather allows, I bring the dog with me, but he can't take the heat like I can. It's something with the rhythm of my motion and the rhythm of the music and the rhythm of my thoughts. It really resets me.
I either watch a couple of episodes of some of my favourite sitcoms or of star trek TNG/voyager. Or I just open a book like discworld on my ebook reader and listen to it with my eyes closed, through ear phones, especially if I am experiencing eye fatigue.
I go to the gym, on off days I go for a ride on my mountain bike. Doing something physical forces my mind to disengage from anything other than what I'm doing right that moment.
Well I've picked up the routine of rock climbing at a indoor gym immediately after a tense day of office work. So I've been going almost daily 😂. You pay little to no mind to anything other than wanting to place both hands on the final hold at the end of a route. I also draw A LOT. Spend quality time with my wife listening to her, engaging in conversation with her and I leave my phone away from me. Cook at home and try to be present and in the moment with all my friends young and old. I'm technically monetarily poor and unapologetically-unbelievably happy. Although we used to be monetarily rich we traded that for more personal time and I will never go back to such a slave-like lifestyle (working like an animal to store useless riches and material objects) don't get me wrong we work really hard but just for our essentials and for the sake of keeping a solid reputation of good work ethic on the 3-4 days we work a week. I recommend it to anyone.