It's a hard problem. Joining orgs to meet people to sleep with is obvious wrecker behavior but often orgs are where you meet people most compatible with you. Every political party, even mainstream ones, has lots of people sleeping with each other. Humans are gonna catch feelings, especially in leftist orgs where trauma bonding from violent interactions with cops is possible. I don't have the solution really.
Word. I don't think there is a solution. People working together for long periods of time, some of them are gonna bang and some of them are going to break up. Idk what to do except try to make sure that no one person is a critical point of failure, and anyone who is serial dating their way through the whole org.
In such cases, the community usually has unilineal descent (either patri- or matrilineal) so that any individual belongs to one of the two moiety groups by birth, and all marriages take place between members of opposite moieties.
the obvious solution is to restrict relationships to being between members of the ancom moiety and the ML moiety. then you're also addressing sectarianism or something.
Kinda hard when so many western leftist orgs have fun events meant to attract young people.
"I can't believe people treat the DSA like a dating club! We made it clear to all the horny young people at our monthly DSA bowling tournament and karaoke mixer that inner party dating is discouraged! Why do they keep wanting to fuck each other after the quarterly bbq???"
I don't think it should be absolutely forbidden, just openly communicated about when it does (inevitably) happen so there are no surprises and the (again, inevitable) drama is minimized. Ain't no way you're gonna get a bunch of young people who work closely together often not to fuck, if you forbid it they're just gonna keep silent about it.
This is absolutely correct. Undercover UK police use sex with female org members to get in with the group. Often even having children with them to maintain the pretence.
doesn’t this like not really prevent that though? Couldn’t they just find someone they know is a member of an org and do the same thing, then join the org after (and pretend it was organically done because of their partner?)
If students WERE having sex at these protests, you'd hear a bunch of complaints about how they're not taking this seriously and it's all just a big party to them.
The front page of Dunk Tank having not but two posts about Zionists chastising pro-Palestinian protesters for being too chaste says a lot about the Zionist mindset.
do they mean you shouldn't have sex at the protest or like... in general?!??? how do you even tell someone who came to the protest has sex regularly? can they smell it or something? it has to just be a "don't fuck at the protest" rule right? it's absolutely absurd to suggest anything else
That makes sense, but even then they wouldn’t be able to enforce or prevent people from having sex on their own free time (away from the protest entirely), so it’s not at all what the tweet poster was trying to imply
Of course you can tell if someone’s having sex at the fucking (but not literally fucking) protest, but you wouldn’t be able to just… ask people to never have sex Ever, you wouldn’t be able to tell if they had sex at home or whatever
how dedicated are they to not going back to the dorms? Might be able to smell it. The quad has no showers.
Not disagreeing with you, just saying. Pretty sure it means "don't give ammo to the zionists by letting them portray it as a sex party or whatever they come up with if they succesfully record tent fucking".
If I see an ex in public, I'm instantly filled with dread. Best case scenario it's someone I don't want to talk to anymore and that tension will make any encounter uncomfortable. Worst case scenario they might go monkey if they see me with someone new or know a bunch of personal shit I don't want them gossiping with others about. Even if they're totally normal and fine with it, their new partner might not be and I face the same threats from them instead.
I would hate to be in the same org as an ex. There would never be a normal working dynamic between us and there would always be at least one person with motive and means to backstab me. If I don't go to the same roller rink or climbing gym as exes, there's no way in hell I'd do something politically radical around them.
You do you but not everybody's relationships crash and burn like that, most people I know can stay in at least a not immediately hostile relationship with their ex.
just saying, if any friend told me that just seeing an ex, any ex, was like a "oh shit man I better just get outta here this is gonna suck" kind of situation, I would have to assume that there's a social problem with that friend. it is normal to be able to interact like a friend or acquaintance with your ex, it is not normal to be unable to go to a climbing gym if you know that any of your exes might be there.
absolutely, sometimes you end up in a relationship with a real piece of shit and you can't interact with them. but by the time you're avoiding like 3+ different exes, I've gotta assume it's your fault
Even with civil endings to my relationships, those relationships ended for a reason. There's some fundamental incompatibility which is going to impact everything else. Several of my exes are bipolar and I don't know what their manic phases bring. Everyone I've dated in the past decade has previously dated someone abusive and that might be the person or type of person giving them a ride to the DSA meeting. That's all wholly unnecessary baggage which means infosec and opsec risk if you're doing something on the edge of legality. I'm avoiding them for the same reason I use a pseudonym here instead of my legal name and wear a mask at protests.
I hate anti drug discourse, all my homies hate anti drug attitudes etc
it is so poorly thoughtout, i would be lying, or better yet, absent. Its undoubtedly important that people are not pressured to consume illicit substances, but a blanket ban on substances is bonkers, might as well have a policy of kill drug users
where do these lines even begin and end? I take medication, thats probably fine, look at me, some lucky baby who can access healthcare!
Self medicating? Gtfo!
anyway, university politics were never myvibe, i was too busy self medicating and being made homeless to be sucked into some trothole
/vent
sorry, these actions are good, this is my critical support