Targeted excellence

Why does this comment hurt in my soul?

If you have enough money to afford a personal assistant, you probably don’t have these problems because you have a personal assistant.

Auto pay saves me $1,000’s a year, that and getting a loan to consolidate all my credit cards so i would only have one late payment max a month, and it’s on autopay.

I have saved so much money with that damn loan and the All Mighty Autopay

I mean it's both. Not being able to do your chores is bad no matter the society.

No. You don't get to deny the very real PERSONAL harm done by this condition. No amount of socioeconomic changes could ever stop the personal problems.

I think it's a personal problem too, because the human condition itself demands certain tasks that we might struggle with, but I absolutely understand what you're saying.

Despite my positives with ADHD, like being able to flip between constant emergencies all day, and getting constant praise for my work, my last job was threatening to fire me because they noticed I was 1 minute (literally 60 seconds) late a few times.

Good riddance to 'em, they had no idea how much effort it took to get within that margin with traffic patterns that change literally every day. They were also okay with getting there ridiculously early and jusy idling their SUVs in the heat until they could go in. Clown world.

I find that's somewhat of a norm systematically. Society will think it's "fair" to hold everyone to a standard of constant ridiculous feats of executive function that have no tangible effect on outcomes, measured by raw numbers at face value, and use this "data" to determine your worth as a person.

Some people like doing work like that, the thing is just that these jobs are treated like trash and underpaid

We need to compensate people well for this sort of work. There are a lot of people doing this work right now who are not compensated fairly for this work.

That's the funniest thing about payscales and such. They're far from the meritocracy we're sold from our first birthday.

Ask France what happens when their garbage stops going out.

Or hey, you also mentioned bus drivers, I couldn't pick just one article about city and school bus drivers striking, but in road-dominated societies, that's a pretty big deal.

So really, a ton of this is simply recognizing who does the work that actually keeps society going. If people like waste management and transportation and other services were actually treated with respect, they also wouldn't have to deal with as much "shit attitudes" either.

But instead, they're constantly pointed at by the communities they serve, who say things like "You don't wanna be a garbage hauler or bus driver...study hard so you can one day sit in a corporate office and make six figures contributing nothing to society!"

I honestly don’t want to be medicated, but I’d like a diagnosis to help me find strategies. I’m middle aged so have figured out how to live with the brain I have but it would be nice to not have to struggle against my nature so much.

I’m probably just lazy or easily distracted, or disorganized, etc. and am looking for excuses.

Yes, the US. You are right and I should have been more specific. My apologies.

@theangryseal
This seems to be the way a lot of doctors are choosing to start..

I really think starting with treating the adhd and, if desired, a coach or therapist to work on coping techniques.

My sons and I went through this journey and the antidepressants were all horrible…. Mood-altering horrible. Helped nothing in our case.. but also found many on the Interwebs that have had similar experiences.

well, I've got other stuff going on, depression and a brain injury last year that I'm still working through. on top of that, as a kid in the 80's I was tested for ADD but at the time they were more looking at the inattentive behaviours. however, I'm pretty sure I'm the other side of that coin and ADHD didn't become a thing (at least mainstream) 'til several years later.

anyway thanks, I really appreciate the advice.

The greats are often famously slovenly, antisocial etc.

And here you are, pushing mere shame.

Your shame seems small, comparatively .