Like - I'm genuinely sorry if that's your exprience. I really am. And I'm not trying to question your experiences.
However: would you please adjust your fucking tone? It was an innocent question. I didn't have the same experiences and was trying to get some info which communities house the people you're talking about. I'm mostly on anarchist and linux communities which are usually quite welcoming to any lgbtq issues.
Also, as I'm assuming you didn't notice: that was my first comment in this thread.
The expectation to not tell someone just asking a simple question to fuck of is not what I would call "tone-policing". But there I go, expecting people on the internet not to be fucking rude. Silly me, I guess.
It actually, literally is. It's not a dinner party it's a comment section. If I have to tolerate people telling me I am imagining transphobia, they can tolerate being disrespected.
Yes, it wasn't directed at you but the person I thought I was talking to. Don't take everything as a personal attack, it clearly wasn't directed at you as you already figured out.