AuDHD @lemmy.world Agamemnon @lemmy.world 1 yr. ago

All or nothing

I can relate... If it is worth doing, it must be done 100% right, first try, zero margin for error, no rehearsals, no practise round.

Like rocket science!

(Except I know that's not how rocket science is done, either, but somehow that thought refuses to sink in)

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So do it all out 100%, submit that as a draft, and be amazed that your 100% can get even better after some input from others. It's unrealistic to think you'll get something perfect on the first try. Only now about 3 years into my job am I starting to learn this. I look back now on some of my early work I thought was 100% now and realize how short sighted I was
A bunch of pennies just dropped (diagnosed autistic as an adult, so this happens a lot)..

At my school we didn't really have to hand in drafts for written assignments, but in maths, I'd always have to "show my work" when I was doing the work in my head and writing it down just seemed like a waste of time, but the teachers just refused to have me write down the result (which I kind of get, but if I'm getting it right just let me get on with it?).

Then I went to art school, and they kept wanting me to do this "show my work" thing again, only in art?? And I'm like.. It's in my head, and when I'll get it out of my head, that'll be the art, I don't understand what you want from me??? (like they literally wanted you to stop at every stage and "annotate" what you were doing, completely getting in the way of both your flow and creativity. As if you can't explain your ideas at the end? or even not at all? why do I have to explain everything to you, it's ART?!).

Phew, sorry, that's some pent up frustration I clearly still had there.. 😂
- I remember this with math when I was young. Show my work? "I looked at the problem and realized that this was the answer."
  
  They want you to show how you kow it was the answer so when you get to more complicated stuff you won't struggle when it isn't instantly obvious.
  
  I didn't really understand that is what they wanted until calculus where a lot of students struggled with applying simple concepts to complex equations.
  
  Right?? 🤦‍♀️😂
- That makes less than no sense in art, my brain can't even imagine how that would work.
  
  this was over a decade ago but I can't lie, this validation that their structure was the problem not me is fantastic lol
  
  It was so frustrating at the time and no matter how I tried explaining why I couldn't comply or how ridiculous the idea was in the first place, no one would listen (and I would get told off for being "argumentative").
  Honestly... 🤦‍♀️
- This has always frustrated me too. For me the biggest frustration with this is that putting my thoughts into words is hard work since they are usually abstract. So explaining how my thought process was for any given result is painful, especially if it's a longer thought process. I imagine it's so easy for people who think in words, that they can not understand what the problem is.
Conversations with people who constantly look for hidden meanings can be really exhausting, when you just want to be understood correctly with a clear explanation the first time
- Yes, it feels a bit like every one else is paranoid.
Write it up perfect then ask ChatGPT to make is sound dumber. Works great!

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