The Case for Marrying an Older Man

I had high breasts, most of my eggs, plausible deniability when it came to purity, a flush ponytail, a pep in my step that had yet to run out. Apologies to Progress, but older men still desired those things.

dear god this is terrible writing and gross as well

a little sad, a little sick, and utterly banal. if i could get just one thing shy of revolution god can it be for conservatives to drop this notion of trying to play subversive when they're acting/promoting the most prototypical, ancient fucking concepts. wow you have a notion of womanhood of a victorian countess, how rebellious

I had to give up halfway through this because of how painfully bad the writing is. The most shocking part of the text is that whoever wrote this claims to have an English degree.

Best comment:

This is a deeply silly essay. But I gotta comment on this statement. "I dream of new structures, a world in which women have entry-level jobs in their 30s; alternate avenues for promotion; corporate ladders with balconies on which they can stand still, have a smoke, take a break, make a baby, enjoy themselves, before they keep climbing."

Hahahaha. While you are dreaming of it in your leisurely marriage to wealthy not-old man, my female colleagues and I are making it happen. (You're welcome.) Tonight we'll meet up for happy hour, drinking wine we learned about on trips we happily planned and paid for ourselves, giggling over those girls we saw hanging around our business school library who imagined that the single men we went to school with were prizes worthy of trading our wonderful, formative, adventurous 20s for. Cheers.

P.S. Your husbands are trying to have affairs with us.

this is hard to read and keep up with but she wanted to marry her dad is what i get out of this.

"Why does every woman not simply go to Harvard and comb parties for a rich foreign exchange student?"

i look forward to the follow up in 10 years: he found someone younger to have a baby with and now i--a fiscally illiterate 35 year old with pride in having cultivated a millionaire's tastes--live with my parents like some shit out of a Jane Austen novel.

i get the bit about not wanting to "train" some guy her age about how to wipe his ass or pick up his towels, but its hilarious that her solution is to just be the totally-not-resentful caged bird who, and i quote:

There are only so many times one can say “thank you” — for splendid scenes, fine dinners — before the phrase starts to grate. I live in an apartment whose rent he pays and** that shapes the freedom with which I can ever be angry with him**.

je. sus. christ.

anyway, i've never been one to find much sustainable attraction in romance with someone who isn't a peer. i can't imagine the resentment of being near 40 and being treated like a aesthetically pleasing accessory rather than someone with whom i keep counsel about the important things that weigh on me. the psychosocial developmental distance between her and her "crazy" friends who have partners and careers and are all figuring out how to balance their compromises, careers, family, and personal integrity is going to be the grand canyon. she is 100% going to be the one they all roll their eyes about.

Right-wingers yearn to be the dog of someone stronger than them.

I mean the vast majority of women around the world date and then marry a man a couple of years older than them for many of the same reasons stated in the article. It's just that most people don't take it to the extreme of a 10 year age gap when you're 20, and getting married at 23, like the author of this terribly written article did. For the vast majority of people, it's usually a 2-3 year age gap with the husband being the older partner, and getting married in the mid 20s or early 30s.

So what is the point of this article? That taking patriarchal norms to their extremes is somehow good? If that were true, most women and men would be doing that, but evidently they are not. I legitimately do not understand why any woman would argue that exacerbating patriarchal relationship norms is a good thing.

i feel so fucking bad for straight women

if i were in their situation i think i'd consider it a blessing to die alone

I used to love men like men love women — that is, not very well

Okay that got a chuckle out of me

Papistry and its consequences

Pee pee poo poo 💩💩 :butt-trumpet:, an essay, by farthead

no more half measures walter

Ok now someone write “the case for marrying your father” with the same article just replacing father into the sentences instead of older man. Then send it to her.

great way to have limited freedom over your future, your person, your reproductive capacity, your travel, etc. etc. etc. for the rest of your sad life

The top comment on the article perfectly sums it up, I'd say...