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I don't plan on actually doing this, but would this be appropriate to send to a trans coworker who I work with, but don't actually have a relationship with outside of work? We don't have any history of sharing memes or anything.
For context, she's one of the senior devops engineers at my company
If you have to ask, no
Personally, I wouldn’t want to receive a meme that assumes some level of familiarity with me from a co-worker if we never had that relationship before.
Why should your choice of operating system have anything to do with any other aspect of your identity?
I think it's identifying the person as trans that's the issue. That's my biggest hesitation; I almost guarantee she would appreciate the meme. But if I were to actually transition (egg_irl) I don't think I would want people who I wasn't very familiar with identifying me as trans even if it was obvious. I just wanted to hear some people's thoughts here
I would say get to know her more first and then see what kind of humour she has.
Posted a response to another person, but I think it's identifying her as trans that's my biggest hesitation; I almost guarantee she would appreciate the meme. I probably should have been more explicit in my question, but I don't how personal it is for people to be identified as trans even in a neutral/positive context.
I've stuck my foot in my mouth before. I would follow the advice above.
Personally I feel like if you have to ask, I'd lean towards caution and not sending it. I mean, best case she gets a chuckle out of it, worse case it kinda creeps her out.
If you're unambiguously an ally and she has seen proof of/knows this, most trans people I know would be fine with it. I'm not sure the risk/reward is worth it though (and tbh I'd say the same for sending memes to any coworkers one's not on more familiar terms with)
Personally I feel like if you have to ask, I’d lean towards caution and not sending it.
That's exactly why I don't plan to =].
most trans people I know would be fine with it
I should have been more explicit with my question, as that's kind of what I was getting at. If most trans people are comfortable being identified as trans even if it's in a neutral/positive context
I'd say no. This is a bit of a risque type of humour. There's so much here that could be misunderstood, and it requires some context which they might not know or appreciate.
I think generally memes about marginalised groups should be avoided entirely in work environments unless said groups are extremely normalised.