The most fucked up version of this is where the surrogate mother (i.e. the mother) decides to keep her child in the end and the rich Westoids have a cry on the local news about how hard done they are.
Even non-exploitative gestational surrogacy weirds me out. Is it queer men trying to seem more "valid" in a heteronormative world that sees the idea of children as more genetic than sociological? If I marry the same sex when I'm older I'm adopting without question, fuck bougie white gays and their fashy bloodline obsession (cough )
Not having a blood connection with your kid does not make you any less their "real" parent. If you feel any different or think sharing their blood will strengthen your bond pls don't have kids because it's giving eugenics
I mean yes America does have a history of destroying countries and then opening up an adoption market there to profit off of the destruction. If this person was capable of reason, they would be shocked to hear that this has mostly been for the benefit of straight Americans, with some gays sprinkled in only recently.
the anglosphere doesn't bother with definitions, words just exist as a vibe. That's why we keep nicking phrases from other languages, we gotta import encoded meaning from the French.
Every single Asian person I've known who was adopted by white people have had deep and fucked up self-hate issues so I personally think there is something deeply problematic with international adoptions on a systematic level.
Transracial adoptions can be fucked specifically because of preexisting racial disparities. Imagine having kids at school call you the n word and “cotton picker” all day and when you tell your white parents, their advice is that bullies are looking for attention, so you should ignore them.
I had a similar situation (obviously with different racial slurs) and my first generation immigrant parents gave me the same advice. I love my parents and they were doing their best, but some people just aren't equipped to understand the racial dynamics of a Westoid school.
from my experience, most asians who grew up in america have those issues too thanks to the overwhelming presence of white supremacy in american society
If a region loots the rest of the world for 4 centuries and then claims it is socialist (the good kind) but they don't return any of the fruits of said four centuries of looting AND try to maintain an exclusionary wall between ethnic or national in-groups and out-groups, do they lose the "imperialist" label?
(not to take any of this framing at face value, bleh)
I think surrogacy or adoption from the global south from any sexuality is bad, but it's safe to assume this person is homophobic. This is the type of shit that subreddit upvotes:
weird how they're adopting orphans that would starve on the streets... or be forced to do hard labor while singing "it's a hard knock life"
but they're imperialists...