peanutbuttercupola [she/her] @hexbear.net

2d ago

Lime(stone) Trans Megathread from April 14th, 2025 to April 20th, 2025

Limestone is a common type of sedimentary rock which I find uncommonly interesting! It's mostly calcium carbonate, which is also what eggshells 🥚, seashells 🐚, and pearls 🦪 are made out of.

In places where it rains a lot, limestone erodes easily, which results in simply gorgeous landscapes such as:

Hạ Long Bay in Vietnam

Tsingy de Bemaraha National Park in Madagascar

The Li River in China

Additionally, the world's longest (Mammoth) and deepest (~~Veryovkina~~ Krubera is once again the world's deepest cave, thank you to SockOlm for pointing that out) cave systems are both found in limestone formations

Mammoth Cave in the United States

Veryovkina Cave in Georgia/Abkhazia/Russia (disputed territory)

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195 comments

fuck im old
- Wait 10 years and you will realise you were really young today

me after dropping one (1) progesterone pill on the ground and losing it

Got a haircut today and omg I love it I love my new bangs I love the deliberate messiness I love the way it frames my face I love the volume that I didn't think my hair could even do I love how it's short but still distinctly femme I love how it looks with my overall fashion I love it I love it I love it, been several hours and I'm still glowing
- Love that for you, congratulations!

okay random as fuck but I saw a tweet which made me think about those MySpace bulletin surveys you used to do back in the day and, being the hoarder that I am, I actually found some that I had saved as text files
and holy shit, one of the first answers slapped me in the fucking face. I won't quote it verbatim on the off-chance that someone has a pre-wipe MySpace database, but it basically reads

LORD SOMEONE GO TELL THIS CHILD THAT TRANS PEOPLE EXIST
that aside, I honestly had no idea I that kind of explicit eggy sentiment that early on. Sure, it's very flippant, but like--that's a weird thing for a cis guy to say, right? Wish I'd kept a diary, but I guess MySpace surveys will have to do
- fuck I definitely have some super eggy shit lost to the sands of time from Myspace and old forums I was on as a kid

- Tell your friend, "hi, I'm having gender feelings" and they'll probably do the rest
- Look, you're definitely trans enough to post in the megathead.
  Also trans people tend to be pretty understanding of this kind of thing - maybe you should be more direct with your friend.
- don't stop living your life just because things are going to hell in a handbasket
- You're not committing fraud and being aware that "I'm so deep in the closet I'm not even out to myself" sounds like
  my shirt that says "I'm so deep in the closet I'm not even out to myself" is raising a lot of questions clearly answered by my shirt, etc

caught in a weird spot right now
i'm going to have been on HRT for a year now in about 3 weeks
I always told myself "don't sweat looking into any of the big surgeries yet. you're still pretty new on HRT and won't have to worry about this for a while. this is a problem for future you"
but now i am future me. i have about reached the time to where i can do the fun t girl surgeries now. it probably is about time to start looking into getting my surgeries. that wait list isn't going to be getting any shorter
fuck i'm gonna have to start making calls now, aren't i?
fuck, now's the time...
- from what I've heard, it's preferred to do but not necessary. if you don't get it, the surgeon can essentially burn off the unwanted hairs, but that runs the risk of damaging the nerve endings which means you won't get as fun of a pussy to play with
- but now i am future me.
  real. And yes you should start calling.

Through dialectic material struggles I've come to understand the wisdom of bedtime, endless scrolling won't cure my unhappiness but a good night's rest will make me feel better especially when I got my plushies
- But they did not listen to wmill for they spoke the truth
  
  no one listens to me until it's too late

god i need something to change, anything. I don't even care if it changes to be worse, I just need something in my life to change, I'm so stagnate

My sad ass really wishes I had a partner to cuddle with rn

I need more gender
I need to feel affirmed and safe and feminine...
- You acquired: GENDER SHARK
  that's more gender
  
  Thank you Local
  
  I've been gender for like a year and still don't have a real gender shark

I don't like being alone

Rewatching Uncle from another world, main character is a sega maniac
so that's cool. On the real while it kind of sus in some moments I do like how it goes against the "beautiful people are good ugly people bad thing" not ground breaking but whatever. Lot of shows like you know who you're supposed to be sympathetic towards and who gets humanity extended towards them vs who's supposed to be a one off villain/thug. There's some overlap with racism and dehumanization there that gets explored I feel. Honestly might check out the webcomic tomorrow since I like where it's going.

Had a rough exhausting day but I got a cute lil kitty reading light for my nightstand to read in bed and it's friends with my kitty plushies and real kitties now. Kitties.
- So cuuute!
  
  edit: oops, replied to the wrong comment. oh well, haha.

Spent lots of today crying over stuff i cant control and intrusive (?) thoughts
- Aaaaaand breadcravings

Brontosaurus was real 😲
- Sunday School is a helluva drug
- RIP to a real one.

apologies to all the gay and bi guys i accidentally led on back in my EDM club days
i know things got crosswired because i was high and in femmebrain mode and twunky and probably seemed flirty and basically wasted your entire night
except for that CATO libertarian guy. i'm glad i wasted your night
- Apologizing to men.
  Critical mistake.

I updated to Fedora 42 (GNOME) and it feels like they just made everything a little rounder and smoother

inspired by @PaX@hexbear.net
are you into forcefem because i'd love to fast fourier trans you
- Me after being decomposed into sine waves
  
  ooh can i use a mixer so you come back out pretty?
- Lmaoooo
  Banger :3

This seems to have flown under the radar
One of two FTL co-creators, Jay Ma, came out as trans somewhat recently
- really? we cant seem to find any information on that. whered you hear about it?
  
  https://hexbear.net/post/4600806

I love trans people, I love people who take their self-expression into their own hands and do what makes them happy.

my heckin 4chinz... she's gone... the boymoder threads... yamerooooooooooo
- And yet nothing of value was lost
- oh fuck so that's what happened. i don't care about what the kiddies are doing on 4t4 so what nau.
  
  its joever i am forced to touch grass
  4t4 was an interesting phenomenon it kinda sucked all of a specific type of posting from the board

Just a PSA for any of you who might not be as active in Tracha:
We've sort of moved rooms (yes, again)! If you were already in the entire space, you may remember the aux room. That is now the main room, and the old main room is no longer being used. It's still up, you can still access it, but messages can no longer be sent, and it is no longer in the Tracha space. You aren't required to join that space (although it also has a room for vents and an activities room, the latter of which is pretty fun and the former of which separates triggering content from the main room), and this isn't something that immediately requires your attention, but I would certainly make sure you at least join the new main room (again, if you were already in the aux room, you're all set). The link to the new room is already in the old main room, so it's a quick and easy switch! I hope to see you there
- Glomming on to this to ask if anyone has had success getting push notifications using fluffychat on grapheneOS? The ntfy solution people discuss online has never worked for me and it's hard to keep up without notifications
  
  I have not
  I tried it once, and I got the notifications to send, but I think the issue was that they would only send when I had FluffyChat open. I'm honestly willing to give it another shot at some point to try and figure it out, because it would help and I really don't want to have to install sandboxed google play. I have been wanting notifications more and more, especially for my DMs, so I'm hoping I can get nfty to work or I might just cave and install google play services (at least it's sandboxed and has limited permissions).
  I'll let you know the results :)
- Of course, if you haven't joined tracha, or haven't heard of it, I highly recommend it! I think it is quite the wonderful space, and I've built some truly wonderful friendships there. It's on matrix, so if you already have an account all you have to do is join! If you don't and think/know you might struggle with creation, send me a DM and I would be happy to help
  .
  Main Room: https://matrix.to/#/#tracha:matrix.org
  Space (includes all 3 rooms): https://matrix.to/#/#tracha-space:transfem.dev
  If you have any concerns about tracha, let me know! I can't guarantee changes will be made, but I can at least bring them into frame for discussion. I want to make sure tracha works for as many people as possible, and I know how chatrooms can be, trust me when I say it took a while for me to finally start participating more (although lurkers are absolutely welcome too, I still fall back to my roots sometimes). Tracha can and has changed. It started as a single room, and after a vote and feedback from users, it was made into with multiple rooms, which greatly improved the experience for many people. Tracha is also still very usable with just the main chat, for those who don't want to join the other rooms.

Veryovkina is the second deepest cave, the deepest one is Krubera cave (only by like 20m though), which lies in the same mountain range
- Oh wow you're right. I didn't know there was a new expedition last year that found more of it. Caves can be so mysterious!

New
just dropped: I think my face is too broad...
Otoh my hair is doing better with this new shampoo and conditioner
- I had a little moment last night in the mirror where I felt a lot better about my eyes and face
  Considering I'm still awful with makeup and wasn't wearing any I might look pretty alright with some work on that and better hair and skincare idk
  There's a lot I don't like about my appearance but my eyes are pretty feminine which is neat

My phone autocomplete suggests “gurls” instead of “girls”
- gru uploaded his consciousness to your phone. when the maps app takes you to the nearest rocket launch site, ignore it

I got one of those knockoff smart rings for like 12 bux, I figured it'd be something fun to tinker with especially since this one has super accessible firmware. I know this thing isn't accurate for fuck since its guesstimating on sleep cycles vs pulse, oxygen, motion just like the real deal does, though heartrate reading seems pretty accurate, so I can try old school workout vids with it.
Last fun tinker project was a 5 dollar mini roomba knockoff, too bad my cats had it out for it and went full Butlerian Jihad and send that robot straight to the litter box somehow and showed that bot how they really felt about it, not sure how since the litterbox is a good 3inches off the floor. Wouldn't charge after that, also ew. They loved to swat at it and push it around the house via swats before the litter box incident, gluing googly eyes slowed them down but ultimately didn't save the machine.

Realized that a big part of my trouble with my brows is that I definitely shaped them asymmetrically, so one is higher than the other.

Going to have to go pencil thin to even them out, and then let them grow back in.

theres like a 5 minute window where the tea is not too hot and not too cold, and i always miss it
- Add more tea, then don't drink it in time again, repeat

Wow, it's been a while. Hi traa!
- Have you been relaxing while away? You seem less bitchy

I think it's so funny when people here say their voices pass on the phone.
Lmao you losers talk on the phone?? Okay, granny
- I think it's so funny when people here say their voices pass on the phone.
  please, it makes me so very happy when it happens, but i have to use the phone for my job
- I gotta call the surgeon at 3 am because he forgot to order any PRN pain control harder than Tylenol for his ORIF femur fracture and never responded to epic chat because he's a SpEcIaL BoY who gets to ignore all pages except for a phone call
- Phonecalls get shit done, its just practice, but its hard to get hold of a younger person most of the time

woke Frostpunk be like: "we've got to build the Genderator"

they should rename greece to south macedonia and macedonia to north greece
that way no one's happy
- Also we should rename the bird to "türkiye."
  
  In French, its Dinde (really really close to d'Inde, it would mean from India). In India it's called a Tarki or Piru (Turkey or Peru). In Turkey they call it Hindi (India).
  Everyone thinks this fuckin bird comes from somewhere else

posting thur it all to keep sane

Work was stressful, but had a great evening. Tried out a new makeup tutorial and a half-dozen outfits/tops. Shared the photos with friends/dates and got a lot of validation.

Folx, I think I'm starting to develop a woman's intuition. For the last few days I've been worried that my homebrew estriadol order got cancelled, or fell through the cracks, or I got scammed for some bazingacoins, since I paid for it about a week ago and still haven't gotten a shipment tracking link. I even sent a support ticket asking them what the h*ck is going on. But on the way home, for no reason at all I thought "maybe I'll check the mailbox before going in" (not something I typically do), and lo and behold, it had arrived
- I personally like the term, "pirate hormones."
  Yar - har - fiddle-dee-dee! Do what you want cause a pirate is free!

I've been thinking about RuPaul's Drag race recently and basically 2 points that might be connected or coincidence.
Firstly you never fucking hear Cishets talking about it anymore. Like a few years back it was a thing they would always bring up when someone was gay or trans (unfortunately). Despite it being on it's 17th season and having like 20 something international spin-offs. Like that's not necessarily a bad thing, except...
Secondly the show has done a real 180 on how shitty and transphobic it was. RuPaul still sucks for fracking and other reasons (but he's only on like 3 of the shows, and no one watches to see him phone it in each week), but he's basically recanted most of the transphobic shit he said. Each season has multiple trans women or non binary performers, even one trans man has competed. The top finalists of later seasons are frequently trans, several trans women/femmes have won the show (mainline and spin-offs).
The most recent show had enormous representation in Lexi Love who was/is a complete train wreck (but still a top 4 finalist). Drag Race Canada this most recent season had Jaylene Tyme a two-Spirit First Nations and Métis Indigenous trans woman, who was a sixties scoop survivor (Canadian stolen generation equivalent).
It's lib/idealist AF but this quote from Vulture is still pretty true.
But something else that is true is that there is no other program on TV, period, on which a convicted felon can come and be celebrated for his love of his gay, drag-queen son. I also can’t remember the last time I saw a transphobic mother work so hard to overcome her biases and reconnect with the daughter she threw out of the house. Even Sam Star’s mother, a deeply southern woman who has a fearsome dedication to her child, is a revolutionary figure right now. The world is terrible, corporations around the country are dropping queer people left and right, but Drag Race still exists. It’s nice.
And guess circling back around to my first point, the show got better about trans people, and then it sort of dropped off the public's radar.

I watched Will & Harper, it was pretty cringey at points because Harper is not very well read seemingly, and has a lot of the i literally just came out energy so i cringed a few times, but it was pretty sweet on the whole
didnt cry as much as I did in the spice girls documentary i watched earlier tho
girl power!

Update on coming out to my friend. I haven't seen much of her in a few years but still counts. She's proud of me, glad I told her, and I got to tell someone else my name. (which she loves for me and I am riding that wave, holy hell I forgot how much I like having my name complimented). She's actually got a trans member of her extended family, which I didn't know about. So yea, very nice to get to talk with her about it a bit.
I still (kind of, complicated obviously) come out to my main irl friend. Don't know when that will happen though.

Ok limestone recipe, heat up the limestone till you make quicklime ~900 C then add water to that to make Cal then use in your maize.

holy fuck i'm two weeks sober now?
it's been years since I've been able to claim that
- Only 14 more days until I can say the same
- yo proud of you that rocks
- Hell yeah, you're doing great.
  
  thinking aboyt hat kid ignites a feminist rage within me, a game about a nameless woman, who doesnt speak, made for and by men, rahhhh
  fun gameplay but ill never finish it
- Congrats
  that's a big deal and I'm proud of you for it :)
- congratssss!!!!
- Congratulations! That's amazing

Cis people really don't get it do they

idk if this is too doxxable to post by my fashion vibe is like "Horse girl, but somehow with a distinctly lesbian flare"
- evil and intimidating awesome lesbian horse couple

I made a tracha valheim server and posted all the info in the tracha activities room, or just DM me if you're interested in joining.

I feel especially terrible today, tired and I have a nasty headache. I also just feel indescribably lonely and it's really hard to disassociate it away for some reason.
- I'm feeling this way today as well +1
  I'm goinf to take a paracetamol and have a snack, and later ill try going for a walk
  take care comrade

Went out today wearing a sports bra. I am 90% sure that everyone could see a conspicuous roundness in my chest area, but nobody commented.
- At least you’re smart enough to wear one. Earlier in my transition, when I was still somewhat masc presenting, I once had the glorious idea of going on a hike without one, because it was really hot outside.
  The top of the mountain was quite crowded and while I was enjoying the view, I started to notice that the people there were looking at me in a funny way, especially the children. At the time I thought it was because I was wearing a headband to keep my hair at bay, which made me look very feminine for a "man". Until I saw the photos afterwards...
  You could see EVERYTHING!
  2 little boobs poking out of my shirt in all their feminine glory.
  I never realized until then how visible they were, because of them growing so slowly. But after giving those people a little genderfuckery show, I started taking my mom’s advice of wearing bras more seriously.
  
  Wore a bra with basically zero support once, I thought it'd be fine under a quite thick dress-shirt. It was not.
  
  yes the biggest mistake most creatures taking E make is not wearing bras soon enough xP
  
  I made a similar mistake when my brother invited me to jog with him and I just thought I'd throw on a T-shirt and it would be fine. Realized it was quite unpleasant pretty quickly, but decided power through it for a little bit. That's how I found out they could produce a bit of fluids.