AITA for “using my kid as a weapon”

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/SnooTangerines1400 on 2023-07-27 15:06:29+00:00.

I 22 f am pregnant with my first child and had just got into a fight with my parent. We brought the topic of their bf up who is getting out of jail soon. They have warned me repeatedly since we started staying here that I need to take anything he throws at me and not speak back. Their bf is known to say what’s on his mind and is rude. For example the first week I knew him he was mad I dressed like a “slut” and said he would not go out with me dressed like that. My “slut” outfit was a pair of shorts, fishnets, black boots, and a crop top. He always comments on how me and siblings dress and it’s always sexual like we’re showing to much keep in mind I’m an adult and I hardly knew this man. Ever since that day he’s disgusted me because my body should not be looked at like that or a frequent topic on my mind. My own father never would say those time and encourages me to dress how I want. Yesterday I overheard his phone call. He said me and my boyfriend will never move out and my parent will be left taking care of us and my child. That my parent shouldn’t come crying to him When I can’t pay my rent and need money from them. today I told my parent I wasn’t going to put up with his pervert comments when he gets out and it didn’t matter anyways because I will be in my new apartment just two weeks after he is out. They then yelled at me and said I was being over dramatic about that one time he called me a slut even though that was not the only time he’s made those comments. I said what if your bf makes those comments about how I dress my child. My parent then said don’t dress your child like that. I said I will dress my child as I please and if he makes sexual comments about my child he will not be around them again. My parent started screaming at me saying I was being an awful parent for weaponizing my kid over people. That all they have heard from me is every time someone says something I don’t like I weaponize my unborn child against them. They are referring to her ex threatening my bf, kicking us out, and then raising a fist to my bf a few weeks ago who I have now cut out of my life and will for very good reasons will not be near my child after that awful day. every other person in my life is fine because none of them have done disgusting things to me. My parent then told me i was wrong for saying that to them and that I need to grow up and stop getting butthurt over what other people say because I’m an adult and I’d be a horrible parent to weaponize my child like that every time someone says something I don’t like to me. I don’t think I’m in the wrong here but my parent said at the end of the screaming match that maybe they shouldn’t be around my child either and that hurt a lot because this is their grandchild, so am I the asshole for what I said? Am I overreacting?