AITA for upsetting others over food??

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/user18661866 on 2023-07-26 20:28:51+00:00.

Today before I was going to go to shower , my mom asked me if i will eat pancakes if she makes me them - I said maybe and went to the bathroom. It was taking me a while because I had to wash my hair , so after I’ve finished in an hour maybe - she called me and I came to the kitchen. There was one pancake in the pan , one on a plate and batter enough for another one. So she’s like “the one frying is for you” , at that time I was already feeling bad , but still said that I won’t eat it. That’s because I’m full and I don’t want to force myself to choke on food when I’m not hungry.

She’s just pushing me and she goes on with “I even made you hot chocolate” and at that time I thought to myself that this isn’t ending good. I went to kitchen with the plate so that she couldn’t see me and just stood there. I confessed to her that I actually tend to feel not great after having sweet food (which is true lately) , and she kind of yelled at me saying that it doesn’t have any sugar and that’s it’s just banana. I left to go to my room, after a minute she comes to me and asks again why don’t I just eat it, I tell her that I do not want to consume any food because I’m not hungry, she replies that I’m just dieting and counting cals and that’s why my stomach hurts and just leaves .

Similar things happen to me often because I sometimes tend to eat only because the others are eating but that’s really bad in my opinion, and what happens is that when the other person is planning on making or buying some food for both of us they get pissed that right after their question I automatically answer yes (that we can get the food) but after a minute I say no because I really asked myself if my stomach is feeling like it. And the thing is that after they hear “no” they just get pushy and make me guilty just because in their heads we could share.

So am I the asshole that I’d rather make someone sad or pissed rather then making my organs hurt and making me feel physically uncomfortable .

(Maybe this post sounds overreactive but situating like this get problematic sometimes)