Banned from comms I haven't posted to in months because I said "Dragonfucker isn't a gender" on another instance

The Dragon saga is likely the dumbest fedi drama I've witnessed in the last two years I've been a resident here. If one major goal is fighting the stigma of mental illness within the community, this ain't it.
- The... what?
  
  There is a minority of the Trans community that can best be summarized by the observation that “calling everyone they/them as a rule” is unacceptable to this subsection. You must be utterly inclusive to everyone, without hesitation and unquestioningly - first it was someone demanding to be called a goddess, then someone insisting they identified as a dragon. To the uninformed outsider (me), they sound exactly like that one theater kid every school had, but it’s just as likely that they’re just a troll taking the piss out of the inclusivity of the community, which is almost funnier.
  I think most people can agree if you don’t wanna be your birth assigned gender, sure! Go for it. But I’m not playing along with someone’s sexual fantasy, I’m just gonna use they/them. .blahaj admins feel differently, and that’s their prerogative - 196 already fractured from that subsection over this issue.
- I kind of remember similar drama around someone who considered herself a goddess. I'm not going to lie, I thought Drag might have been the same person because of how strongly everyone reacted to both of those users

I've never looked, but blahj feels like one of those Reddit communities where you can go and post in good faith but still get banned for some esoteric reason that only makes sense to the moderators and the 4 people who've made it their life's work to eliminate the behavior from all of society.
Like, I read a post from a guy who got banned for having the temerity to suggest that, perhaps, harassing literal children who were streaming Harry Potter on Twitch wasn't helping trans people and people should instead do something like donate to the Trevor Project. Reason for ban: transphobia
At some point you just have to recognize that some moderators are acting in bad faith and playing petty high school social games using moderator powers.

Love that blahaj is still supporting the anti-trans troll. Very wholesome of them to reduce an entire class of people to attack helicopters
- Blahaj has literally gone from "attack helicopter jokes are transphobic" to "not taking attack helicopter jokes seriously is transphobic". This is a genuinely distressing turn of events from one of the largest trans-friendly spaces on the internet.
- the troll was banned long before OP was get your facts straight
  
  ...but not for their anti-trans trolling. Blahaj still explicitly supports attack helicoptors.
  
  "But facts get in the way of my circle jerk about how neopronuns are icky and I dont gotta respect the trans people disagreeing with me!"

Repeated gatekeeping
lo-fuckin-l the hypocrisy.

Just got banned myself. 🤷
- Welcome to the club.

It isn't that surprising to me that you received an instance ban for breaking an instance rule, even if it happened somewhere else. Users in blahaj can still see your activity, even if it's not taking place in their instance, and a rule that's meant to protect instance users like that one needs to apply everywhere that instance might be active. I don't think this is mod abuse at all.
I can't advocate enough that people have multiple user accounts for this purpose, though. The fediverse is so diverse, with so much variation in mod standards, that everyone will eventually experience this. Not as a way to evade a ban, but just as an acknowledgement that different communities don't play well with some other communities you might be a part of. That, on top of the fact that it's just good opsec to rotate user accounts anyway.
I don't think anyone is going to change your mind about the specific opinion that earned you the ban, though. You seem pretty locked-in.
- Instance banning isn't going to stop him from posting it elsewhere and blahaj users from seeing it elsewhere. It's a performative gesture that does absolutely nothing in context.
  
  Instance banning isn’t going to stop him from posting it elsewhere and blahaj users from seeing it elsewhere.
  No, but it will stop them from seeing it from that particular user in every instance, which is better than them still seeing that user air their grievance about it.
  It's less performative than just about any other act of moderation on lemmy.

I thought draconic was better than that tbh.
e: also I think instance banning people for things said off instance is a shit thing to do. Your rules don't apply elsehwhere. Stay in your lane, ada.
- If you watched a guy with an AK walking down the street and entering your neighbors' houses one by one, some bullet noises, then walking to the next house, I bet you would shoot him before he enters your property, if you had the opportunity.
  Try staying in your lane in that situation. It's just being proactive.
  Now I don't have any context on this guy past the title of the post, or what they mean by "repeated" gatekeeping, but just given the title of the post, them having the opinion that saying "dragonfucker is not a gender" is gatekeeping is laughable. So I'm hoping something else was going on for my own sanity, because this is sad.
  
  That is quite an extreme example for something so mundane in reality.
  I had to debate upoting lol

I'm so sorry that happened to you.
- I mean, I haven't posted in any of those comms in months. It's no big loss. But it also demonstrates that stopping my participation on those comms was the right choice to begin with, I think - the instance admins are at odds with what I regard to be basic facts ("Dragons aren't real", "Human beings are human beings").
  Not enough that I'm trans-positive, NB-positive, and genderfluid-positive. One must be Dragon-positive.
  
  Not enough that I’m trans-positive, NB-positive, and genderfluid-positive. One must be Dragon-positive.
  It seems crazy to me how you can be casually labelled "transphobic" and instance banned for having a perfectly rational discussion about neopronouns on another instance, even though you have consistently not misgendered anyone, including Drag. I guess the "pre-crime" thought police are on the case. It's not enough that one follows their instance rules, no questioning or discussion of the rules will be tolerated either. Oh well, it's their loss.

Oh no! You got banned from toxic echo chambers! Whatever will you do?

It's been a while since I played D&D, but isn't it a race? /s

god you fuss about blahaj a lot
- It would seem by Blahaj's defenders any amount of 'fussing' is a lot.
  
  24 comments in the past 14 hours is a lot. that those 24 comments make up 92% of your total activity for that time period seems obsessive.
  you sure talk a lot about something that seems to only upset you.

Deeply unserious

Insanity. And then the one person who's a little less insane, gets bombarded by the insane asylum.
Hopefully this is your wake up call.