What's your opinion? Vote now: I'm very quiet, I breath heavily/moan softly, I moan/grunt at normal volume, I'm loud and proud!...
Like the title says: I've been with many guys and they've been all over the map on this. I'm curious as to where we stand. Vote and have fun in the comments. :)
EDITED TO ADD:
Bonus Question: do you announce you're cumming by saying "I'm gonna cum" or something?
well i definitely try to be a present and active participant, so i'll moan and breathe and, like..growl, i guess kinda? like a low, primal noise, so i guess a growl
problem is, that's like 70% genuine and 30% me playing it up, so i always get worried it's too fake (no complaints yet tho so iguess it's okay)
but i'm bi, so that's if i'm the one doing the fucking. if i'm being fucked, it's hard not to let out some whimpers and moans and stuff. no more growls, it's like i become a total sub. i guess that's just the way of the switch verse 😎
It's nice to feel appreciated, so I try return the favour. It's win-win, they learn what makes you make noise and you get to be made to make noise. Also, always announce I figure I'm not the one that deals with the mess so it's only polite to let them know when so they can choose where.
If I need to be quiet I can be completely silent. However lately any moaning or heavy breathing has also included some growling and grunting too. It can get pretty loud when I'm completely in the moment with a partner. I don't actually know how loud as I'm not paying attention at the time. I really really love when women moan with pleasure.
Men are good, too, of course. I think they can be more shy.
Bonus: yeah it's only polite that way if they want it somewhere specific I can try try oblige.
My partner and I have been slowly getting more vocal since we've recently gotten a bit more privacy, and ooohhh boy is it fun to moan loud.
I find it so much fun to egg her on and to moan while fingering her, a lot of our dirty talk is just shit like "yeah moan louder you dirty slut, moan like you fuckin want it" and we both love it. She also enjoys it when I'm riding her strap on and she makes me whimper. We switch so much, it doesn't feel like a "submissive" thing to moan and whimper and whatnot. We use moans as feedback for "this is good keep going" and it's veerrryyy good at that. Some of our best and most memorable times together were when we had the place to ourselves and didn't have to worry about anyone hearing haha
As for cumming, she absolutely loves it when I tell her she's making me cum, so that's also a yes :)
There's a script in porn, with the girl who moans in pain and the guy who doesn't make a sound as he goes back and forth, apart from a grunt when he comes.
It took me years to understand how exciting it is for your partners to get feedback, and how important it is to say what you like and what you want.
And about announcing when you're coming: yes, always.
It lets your partner know that it's not the time to change position or slow down (unless you have a kink for ruined orgasms), it keeps them from choking if it's during a blowjob (again, unless it's a kink, but I never met someone who likes to gag), and overall it lets them choose how they wants to handle the mess.
I hate moaning in porn, irl it is funny making people moan, and yeah I say when I am usually so my partner can get ready to either do something about it or wipe it up. Myself I'm pretty silent
My natural noise, if I'm not trying to suppress it, is a sort of pitch-varying hum. Don't know why. My partner likes it, so I don't worry about it too much.