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Happiness is not the goal - it's the failure state. Happiness means I've become an abusive monster, like you.
That's a wild take man. Like what are you talking about? Can you tell me exactly what I've done to be an "abusive monster"? Could you elaborate on how happiness is only the result of being abusive?
Happiness is like a drug; it is addictive, and "taking" it loses effectiveness over time. This means every person needs to do more extreme things to achieve the same happiness. Eventually, they need to start abusive others in order to achieve the same "high".
You may not be actively abusive yet, but you have to quit cold-turkey and run directly away from happiness in order to avoid the grip it will gain on you.
I'm going to disagree with you. I have found it takes less to make me happy as I get older. Moreover, my happiest moments are those where others are happy. I take no pleasure in harming others and I don't believe that's a unique perspective.
I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.
I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.
By definition that's not possible. Unless you're accusing me of being incompetent; correct exercise of coping mechanisms cannot make life more difficult because they're engineered as a ratchet.
It is common to develop a drug or alcohol addiction as part of a coping mechanism. That can absolutely make your life more difficult. Coping mechanisms can make it more difficult to make changes that will better your life.
The path of least resistance isn't always the easiest path.
I promise you that this is not the "path of least resistance". In fact, it may be the path of most resistance - that's evidence it's the right one.
Which is it? Your choices don't make life more difficult or they do and that's why they are good?
People's reactions to my choices make my life more difficult, and that's why they are good. They can choose not to make my life more difficult; they instead make the immoral choice. My choice is moral and therefore the only one I can really make.
It's interesting that any pushback you is evidence you are correct. It's also interesting that you take no responsibility for any difficulties you might experience, it's always the result of someone else's choice.
I take responsibility for things I have actually done wrong. The problem here is that people conflate their out-of-control feelings with factual incorrectness. I can't be responsible for your feelings, especially when you go out of your way to feel things in bad faith to blame me for those feelings. It's your responsibility to not allow your feelings to affect your judgment in any way.
You don't actually care about me being truly responsible - you just want me to be stupid enough and submissive enough to accept responsibility for things I have no duty to be responsible for. You want me to be responsible for your feelings that you have in bad faith, so you can justify "punishing" me arbitrarily.