askchapo @hexbear.net TheChemist [he/him] @hexbear.net 2 mo. ago

Is there an Asexual friendly space in this site?

Because well, I am Asexual, and well.... it is incredibly rare to find another Asexual person anywhere. Not to shame people for their interests, but I am not comfortable with a lot of posts, even if they are meant to be for a joke, implying that everyone gets horny, and/or that apparent "Peak Hedonism" or whatever it's called, is about having lots of sex. Again, something I am not interested in.

I have seen no signs of any Asexual friendly spaces on this site, not even in the LGBTQIA+ Subcommunity for this site. Although I have been socially isolated by otherwise queer friendly spaces before, for "only" being Asexual.

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Hi! If you're looking for a community specifically for asexual people, we at Lemmygrad have one over at !ace@lemmygrad.ml 😊

Always nice to meet a fellow asexual person! ^^)/ 🫂
- Hexbear link: https://hexbear.net/c/ace@lemmygrad.ml
  
  Your username and this comment and the incongruity are sending me lol
  
  Loathsome Dong Eater promoting the ace community is just really fuckin funny
- Thanks for this link. I have never met other asexuals before I am starting to feel like the only one lol.
Are you looking for a space to specifically discuss asexuality, or a space about general things minus references to sex?
- Kind of both.
Not sure what you are asking. Like is there a comm where nobody ever talks about sex?
- the volcel police are only a post away
  
  The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.
  
  نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.
- Yeah, I'm confused. This site is one of the least horny places I've ever seen on the internet.
  
  i definitely see stuff i would define as horny posting fairly often
  
  but the horniness level tends to be lower than it is in other places, which for me personally means it's fine bc it doesn't trigger my sex repulsion. but it's def there
  
  Ehh i dunno about that chief, there's more horny posting than you think.
- They probably mean a place they can talk about lives and experiences of asexual folks. In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term) being asexual could be isolating.
  
  idk if there's a term for this, but I assume OP feels alienated by the assumption that experiencing sexual attraction is the norm. Like heteronormativity but for sexuality in general, I suppose.
  
  In a word rife by sexuals (not sure this is the correct term)
  
  i think allosexual would be more accurate here. they're like, the complete opposite to us asexuals lmao
!anti_cishet_aktion@hexbear.net has a rule against aphobia.

Feel free to post some memes from Reddit's r/aaaaaaacccccccce or whatever — we just don't have as many active Fediverse users to sustain active communities.
I definitely think ace comrades (and aro comrades too!) should get a space or regular thread somewhere for themselves, to talk and share what they want to share.

I guess there needs to be a minimum amount of people/interest in it, but I think even if it's not many people here it should be an option.
I do think Asexuals should get a space of their own. I don’t think the entire site should have to repress its sexuality when it’s already weirdly puritanical on that end. I also find it odd for asexuals to be incorporated into LGBTQ comm when sexuality is literally the defining criteria for the comm.
- I think GSM (gender and sexual minorities) is perhaps a more accurate label. The community is about being different from the cishet majority, unless you're suggesting straight trans people should be excluded too?
  
  I’m not sure I understand. Why wouldn’t straight trans people be part of an lgbtq comm?
- Because Asexual people aren't heterosexual. Nor are they necessarily adverse to sex and sexuality. They experience and engage with sexuality differently to allosexual people. They're not just people who are sexually repressed.
  
  I didn’t say they were sexually repressed
It depends. Are you looking for:

an asexual-centric thread where you can talk about your experiences with asexuality?

!anti_cishet_aktion@hexbear.net may be for you

general discussion threads where nobody is horny?

I find that sexuality can often be an inescapable persistent undercurrent of online discussions, which really frustrates me. this definitely happens on hexbear sometimes, but I think it's not too bad, as you can always invoke the magic words to get that out of here
the magic words

volcel police!

or have you experienced outright ace-phobia on the site?

if so, use the report button or inform the mods, and they'll purge the perpetrators
- The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.
  
  نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.
We've had the VoPo as part of this community's culture since at least 2 years before this site even launched. It's a clear enforcement of "neither horny nor a coomer be". Or does "asexual-friendly" mean "asexual-centric"?

I have at least two ace friends and they're great.

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