Revealed: undercover UK police officer deceived woman into 19-year relationship
Revealed: undercover UK police officer deceived woman into 19-year relationship
Victim’s family accuse Avon and Somerset police of bullying and attempting to cover up deception
An undercover police officer used his fake identity to deceive a woman into a 19-year relationship in which they became partners and had a child together, the Guardian can reveal.
The officer concealed his real identity from the woman for the duration of that period, never telling her his real occupation, and using his fictitious identity on the birth certificate of their son.
In 2020, after the couple were engaged to be married, the woman discovered that her fiance, whom she believed to be a businessman, was in fact a police officer who had subjected her to a sophisticated deception lasting almost two decades.
IMO, the sketchiest part is that the department knew about the relationship, let him continue using the fake identity for years after leaving the force, and pressured the family to keep quiet after learning the truth.
Now that is commitment to the bit.
I'm not sure it was a bit.
He wasn't investigating her. If you are an undercover agent and meet someone new - off duty and unrelated to work - are you allowed to tell them your real name?
If not, if a single person is forced to choose between no intimate relationships and relationships only under a pseudonym, then the latter is the predictable choice.
I mean, for as much as we mock it: "Mia, I'm a cop" was the less assholish thing to do.
But yeah. I would argue that anything where you need to be undercover is too dangerous to be entering into a relationship with someone else. But.. I can totally imagine how someone would stupid their way into that.
This isnt even the first time this has happened in the UK. A group of officers held fake relationships with a climate protester group too.
I feel like so many red flags had to of been glossed over in a 19 year long relationship....
Don't blame the victim.
After you read this, I guarantee you will feel sorry for me. Imagine this. You are attracted to women, like you are now (emotionally and sexually), but they do not exist. They existed a long time ago, and no one knows what they looked like (They have a pretty good idea from the fossils, however), but they do not exist anymore. That means, not only do you know there will never be any possibility of you having sex with one, but there's not even a possibility of you ever seeing one in real life. Everyone else, however, except for a very few, are not attracted to women, they are attracted to something else entirely. So in other words, you will never find any porn anywhere on the internet, only non-sexual pictures of women. Everyone you have told about your attraction to women think it's disgusting. To relieve yourself, you get off on the non-sexual pictures of women, knowing it will never get any better. That's what life is like to me. I am a degree 6 Zoosexual, sexually and emotionally attracted to Tyrannosaurs and nothing else. Women don't even do it for me. I am cursed to live my life in the misery that my most powerful emotional fantasies will never be even close to coming true. Life is like hell to me. I will never know true love.
What red flags?
You are free to point them out to me, I did not read about any. That would be far more effective than downvoting me.
Wow! That poor kid! Poor woman too but I can't imagine that kid learning all this and some imaginary person is on his birth certificate!? Trust issues forever. Fucking wow. Can anyone put a fictitious person down on a birth certificate? Can you do that for both parents? Does this get him out of child support? I have sooo many more questions.
No, it does not get you out of child support. Just as taking your spouse's last name does not get you out of debt.
Learning "all this"? That the father has a different name and job? Is that even relevant to their relationship? It has been 19 years. You can blame him for not telling her in the first months, after his undercover thing was over. After that he just rolled with it. That is it. Zero trust issues.
I agree. Your name is the least important part of your identity.
If my spouse told me that she actually had a different name on her birth certificate then I wouldn't bat an eye. In fact, I would probably continue using the "fake" name, because why not.
This sounds more like intelligence agency than police...
Regardless of agency or police, the important bit is he left the job 9 years ago. And they let him keep using the identity for 7 years after that.
I mean when the real identity is known by people that do not like him too much it could also be like whiteness protection program...
As the article states it was a police officer from the "Avon and Somerset police" and not any special intelligence agency.
Articles say much when the day is long...