Yeah idk honestly. I came here to get a little kinky but have mostly just lurked and I'm guessing that's most people. It does seem to be a pretty small community. I used to use Snapchat and I broadcast on Chaturbate infrequently but it seems hard to find what I'm looking for too - which used to a lot of trading nudes with people on Snapchat but they all disappeared
Via the Lemmy Explorer on lemmyverse.net, I found !chat@lemmynsfw.com but I do not know how much that is what you are looking for (I mean, it is not 1-on-1 and there are other people there than straight men as well).
However, feel free to send me a direct message if you want to chat with me.
Hey hey thanks for your comment and for your help as well! I just checked it out but it doesn't seem to be that active.
It seems I overestimated NSFW and Lemmy. I think having a lot of of porn and naked women is interesting for male users, but also female users are curious about men and might also be interested in seeing a hot guy or two to start posting and to stay on Lemmy 🤫
Can I really private message you? Thanks again for your reply.
But yeah, lemmynsfw definitely can be a bit of a sausage fest. The Fediverse and Lemmy especially are niche enough that a lot of the users are techy types (like yours truly, heh) which does tend to still bring a gender bias with it.
If you have the spoons for it, you could occasionally post the kind of stuff you'd like to see? It might feel like shouting into the void since yeah, not a lot of women here (probably more gay guys), but every change has to start somewhere, right?
Might have to create and mod communities though, which is a whole 'nother can of worms if posting isn't restricted
Hate to say it, but I don't think Lemmy has the critical mass for a community of just hot dudes to hang out (if the OC is any indicator, it'd probably just be Nodachi talking to himself). Mostly of the community tends to lurk, it makes sense (there's not a whole lot to spark a conversation over and no one wants to be the thirsty dude, at least not publicly), but it make the place feel pretty empty and inactive. Because it's so quiet, here and NSFW chat are catch-alls for most conversation (on the bright side, posts with a comment or two tend to bubble into hot/ active fairly easily).
With that out of the way... Hiya! I've always been more bookish than brawn; so probably not hot in the traditional sense, but if that's not a deal breaker I'm not opposed to chatting.
Thanks a lot for your Interesting comment! I'm a bit taken aback by how civil people are compared to other places. Other than one dude asking me if I want him to show me his PP (weird, what are we, 5 years old? 🥴) chilling here hasn't been stressful like other places, and I didn't feel defensive yet.
There is nothing wrong with being thirsty (I totally am at times 😁) but it just feels off if that comes out in a creepy or immature way.
Of course! Thanks for posting and responding such genuine interest; seeing such a lively comment section has been a breath of fresh air. Glad you're enjoying the vibe (well, other than the one methane cloud of a dude).
That's a good way to put it (this is a NSFW community after all, if thirst isn't the name of the game, its gotta be at least rule three). Probably part of the charm and civility of the community that folks would rather quietly hit the up arrow than risk coming across as coming across as creepy.