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- Everything is too much and I feel like I only ever get brought along to things out of pity and then do a bad job socializing while also barely holding it together the whole time and eating myself up mentally for not doing better.
  People don't really do this. If you think someone is weird and unpleasant, it's way easier to just not invite them to things. Especially neurotypical people will try to cut any of that stuff out. They won't benevolently invite someone because "aw, they just need help socializing 🥺"
  What I'm getting at here: if they are inviting you places, it's because they want you there and they enjoy your presence.
  apparently it was a nice dinner according to normal people
  Listen to this person
  
  Thanks
  
  I dunno, I guess I was overthinking it and catastrophized from having a bad time but I just left there bewildered that they were pretty much like "hey, let's go to The Headache Factory! I love hearing plates and silverware crashing into each other and small children crying and yelling repeatedly while I try to converse and eat at the same time in a cramped booth!" and enjoyed themselves and apparently I masked well enough that they didn't think I was just gritting my teeth and trying not to storm out or meltdown the whole time

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