I am not calling to coddle or excuse the behavior of bigoted men in any way!
I am calling to be kind and understanding to young men (often ages 10-20) who are very manipulable and succeptible to the massive anti feminist propaganda machine. Hope this clarifies that very important distinction. :)
Man...my BIL with his baby-mama/ex-fiance. I used to work with her (that's where they met, we all worked together at the time).
She's so nice and bubbly on the surface but holy shit there's a demon under that veneer and I've met it. That manipulative demon is how she became baby-mama after she became ex-fiance. But he puts up with it so he can keep seeing his kid and hopefully shield him from it ~half the time.