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The same could be said the other way. "If not being called by your preferred pronoun is one of the most difficult things in your life... etc etc".
Doesn't work because of the ratios of the populations. For a majority group, their interaction with the minority group is 1 in 100 interactions. For the minority group, they are interacting with the majority group 99 of 100 times.
Being mindful 1 time every 100 is not a big deal. Hearing something hurtful 99% of your day every day is a very big deal and could easily be the most difficult thing in your life.
HOW IS IT HURTFUL? If you can make believe you're a woman when you're not, you can make believe they are calling you mam instead of sir or removed.
You can disagree with the reason the minority group is feeling hurt, you can't proclaim that they aren't feeling hurt.
And with that being the situation you can only decide whether you have the empathy and belief in common humanity to do your small part in reducing the amount of hurt in the world. Or not.
If which seat you get on the bus is the most difficult thing in your life...
oh right. compare the civil rights movement to not being called dragonself. totally logical.
Was sitting in a particular seat the entirety of the civil rights movement? Is being addressed by your correct pronouns the entirety of the trans movement? Are they both smaller manifestations of much larger issues of bigotry and bias that shitty people can isolate to try and mock and trivialize the hardships that minorities and marginalized people face?
Geez, how you gonna equate civil rights with civil rights? What a stretch!
My eyeballs can't roll back in my head hard enough to read your comment. Have a great life.
Well that's convenient timing with your eyes. Otherwise you'd have to learn to cope with being wrong.
Being misgendered constantly is a very difficult thing for trans people. Why wouldn't it be?
because i don't need another person's consent or validation to be myself?
It's not about consent or validation, it's about being harassed. I'm not sure why that isn't clear to you. Do you think trans people have an easy life?
me misgendering you is not harassment. i honestly don't care and you shouldn't either. people that want to die on that hill are wasting everyone's time. move on. don't engage with people who don't take the time to respect your whatever.
Accidentally misgendering someone is not harassment.
Intentionally doing so is. Because that's the whole point of intentionally doing so.
But accidentally misgendering someone is often considered paramount to taking part in the holocaust. I'm not mean, I'm just lazy, and I don't want to talk on egg shells to make sure I accurately read someone's gender correctly. You can only take some much unjustified vilification before you start to think "you know what? fuck you. I'm going to misgender you out of spite".
I accidentally misgender trans people all the time. Never have I ever been accused of being transphobic because I handle it like calling someone the wrong name accidentally. I quickly correct myself and move on, and actively do my best to remember their pronouns going forward.
Sure, it takes half a braincell of effort at first, but then it becomes easier. This is a strategy known as "not being a dick".
That said I call everyone Carl because I'm too lazy to learn everyone's name, and I don't want to walk on eggshells to make sure I don't call someone the wrong name accidentally./s
I like calling everyone Carl, lol.
IDK, to me it's not that much different than trying to keep someone's religious denomination straight. I really just don't care what particular branch of stupid you're into.
But hey, that's me, a cys white male living their life oblivious to your personal struggle. Fuck me, am I right? If you want to have a conversation about toppling capitalism, you might get my attention.
I'm also a cis white dude, but I've grown past the stage of saying "woah is me I'm standing in a place of privilege". That attitude does nothing for anyone.
Allow yourself to be called out, because that's how you get called in. If you want change, you have to be willing to be uncomfortable, because that's what growing feels like. That discomfort is part of you having empathy for others, but it will go away as you learn to love and respect those who are not like you.
I get it, it's easy to want to focus on how patriarchal systems have put us in a strange position of being both an aggressor and a victim, and it's easier to face being a victim than considering how we've been complicit in this system. We do need to talk about men's new role in an egalitarian society, and how we can best support men going forward, but being apathetic towards the dignity of others is not how you topple capitalism.
Dude, don't listen to bullshit propaganda. Actually talk to trans people and find out what they think.
I think I'll just mind my business and not let anyone police my - checks notes- words
Expecting you to treat people with basic respect is not policing your words. Do you go around calling black people the negroes? I hope not. Is it because you think that's extremely disrespectful? I hope so.
I translate: „I think I keep being a dickhead and keep not caring about other people because my lazyness is more important to me than your feelings.“
guilty as charged. I'm an equal opportunity asshole these days and don't really care. no one is going to help change the things that are important to me, so I'm really not interested in your sad song.
But accidentally misgendering someone is often considered paramount to taking part in the holocaust
Just because 4chan and Fox News says so, doesn't make it true
“you know what? fuck you. I’m going to misgender you out of spite”
Gosh it sure seems like you're just making excuses to be a spiteful petty asshole to groups you don't like
That problem is never the worst in someone's life, though. If they have that problem, they also have the problems of people calling the police if they use a public bathroom, or being killed on a first date... Slightly bigger problems.
Ok, zoomer.