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disappointed, maybe. How can you allow a comment to hurt you?
NEVER allow your happiness to be dependent of internet opinions mate! you will live a happy life.___
How can you allow a comment to hurt you? Easy, by being human and having feelings. Comments can't hurt if you're an empty husk of a person who has no feelings; if you're hypervigilant about bracing for attacks; or if you never take a risk of being vulnerable and never share anything important about yourself. None of these options is particularly healthy. Having no feelings is a type of major depression, and living in fight-or-flight mode will lead you there, or to an early grave. The last option is at least reasonable online (but not in relationships), but not so easy in practice.
A common theme in the responses here is the element of surprise, comments and criticism that blindsided the person by hitting them in a vulnerable spot that they didn't know that they were exposing.
That certainly comports with my experience in receiving hurtful comments.
Having no feelings is a type of major depression, and living in fight-or-flight mode will lead you there, or to an early grave.
Guys.. we're talking about comments right? Cause I'm sensing deflection here.
What do you mean by deflection?
I don't think it's a choice for some of us.
Ok
That’s easy for you to say, but you don’t have their experience and you don’t feel their emotions. I agree that we should strive for that, but expecting everyone to just brush off everything is unrealistic.
It a tough world out here mate, you best guard up! Or the world just might swallow you whole.
And don't forget to be nice, cause sociopath is but a man in a process of changing :)
If a dumb driver almost side-swap you while merging into the highway, give him way; he must really need to take a shit.
Or that of anyone else honestly.
Your bad behavior/lack of communication, etc isn’t going to ruin my day. Don’t let it, stop thinking about it, move on. It’s their issue not yours.