lol yea im sure there is such a huge gap between men and women when it comes to holding lightweight pool cues and tapping a ball in to a hole. get fucked.
You want the balls to stay on the table, maximum power to break the balls up as much as possible is more friendly game strat anyway. If you're playing to win keeping some degree of grouping can make things harder for your opponent if you don't sink off the break, which isn't something to rely on.