What are your experiences with polyamory, first or second hand?
What are your experiences with polyamory, first or second hand?
I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. I've been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. It's a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. We're all genuinely happy and satisfied. I'm kind of casually looking for a boyfriend of my own.
But I feel like I only hear negative stories about other poly experiences. It's always unstable people and situations. It's always two out of three people happy at most. Surely there are other success stories out there, and I just hear the disasters because they're more memorable and fun to tell. Does anyone else have or know a polyamory success story?
EDIT: This blew up a little while I was asleep. I promise I'm at least reading every comment.
EDIT 2.0: ngl I did not expect the trope of polyamory to fix a struggling relationship would be so real. We did just the opposite and are both baffled. Don't use volitility to fight the volitility.
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I'm 40, two of my close friends married right out of high school. They started doing the poly thing about 8 years ago. Their marriage was kind of f'd from the get go as Wife has a medical condition that prevents penetrative vaginal sex. "Lots of handjobs" the Husband once told me. They started doing the poly thing as a way for him to get out and experience the one thing she couldn't give him I guess? Shortly after they both picked up girlfriends. His girlfriend moved in and was a real bitch I guess to Wife. Eventually the Husbands girlfriend says she isn't poly and breaks up with him. Husband realizes he caught feelings for the girlfriend big time because they are actually able to do the deed. He moved in with the girlfriend and is divorcing the Wife. RIP
OP specifically asks for a success story and you post this ? why ?
Becaus I felt like it?
I upvoted you. I asked for experiences. I was hoping for success stories, but I came into this understanding that most people don't have them. If literally nobody on Lemmy but me had a good polyamory story, that would be valid and wouldn't discourage me.