Trans Megathread from February 3rd, 2024 to February 9th, 2024

Hi everybody! My schedule has been really unforgiving, so I may or may not end up writing something and making changes to the post later in the week.

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How do you even meet other trans people IRL? I guess there are places where they meet or whatever, but I am too afraid of everything to go to an unfamiliar place somewhere alone to meet with people I never seen before.
- i met my trans gf on Lex, some other trans friends on Bumble for Friends and have made other rl trans friends through these initial online friends.
  lex got bought and is kind of shitty now but it's still, at least by me, super queer and active daily so you'll see people post local events like meetups you can attend.
  I understand many of the local queer places advertise on instagram and facebook as well as you might try these platforms if you can stomach them.
  
  Thanks, I bookmarked your post, maybe I'll ask you more details about these Bumble and Lex apps once I have the energy to figure that stuff out
  Are they available for desktop/web or only for phone? Do trans people on there tend to openly say that they are trans, or is that a bad idea?
  
  sure, always happy to help!
  I have only used the apps on my phone so I can't speak to access sorry.
  People are open about being trans on both apps although bff only has limited self labeling. So my labels there have me as a 'non binary woman' and 'queer' and 'transitioning' because that seems to be as close as they offer. It's a weird app - choosing friends by looking at pictures of them first seems super weird to me - but there's nice people there who want to be friends so 🤷🏼‍♀️
- Support groups and then friends of trans friends for me.
- I do know (sort of, we have talked a few times, we are not really friends) an openly queer person IRL, good point. (Only exactly 1 person. I truly lack social skills and I don't know many people in general.) But how would I ask that question without being inappropriate? In a world with so much hatred towards queer people, it sounds like a really bad idea for me (not openly queer) to just walk up to this person (openly queer) and be like "Hey, you're non-binary, right? I am trans, can you tell me about any trans meetups?"
  Maybe it's irrational, but I kinda worry about being seen as an imposter

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