How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD?
How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD?
If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them? Would it change how you feel about that person?
As someone with NPD I'm always worried about how having NPD would affect me socially. It's so stigmatised and people are always talking about how dangerous people with cluster B personality disorders are. I'm dating this guy at the minute. I really love him but I'm worried about how he would feel if he found out about my NPD. Would he still want to see me after what you see online about NPD? Should I ever tell him? Should I just keep it secret?
As of now I've told nobody about my diagnosis other than a few people at job interviews. What I'm basically asking here is 'How will NPD affect your social life?'.
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Why the ever-loving eff would you talk about this during a job interview?
Is this a recent diagnosis? You need to slow way down and educate yourself on the condition and your employment rights. And I don't mean by asking people on internet forums. Get real resources recommended by the doctor who gave you the diagnosis.
I thought if they ask your medical history you're supposed to give them a complete rundown. Recent appointments, diagnosis and medication everything now I know better
I don't know where you live, but it is not normal for prospective employers to ask for your medical history most places, and is legally questionable if not outright banned under the anti-discrimination laws of many countries.
Never reveal your health history to past, future, or current employers. Furthermore, you may want to have NPD be a personal diagnosis between you and your trusted mental health doctor/therapist. You can request that they provide a general billing to your insurer (e.g., "patient sought counseling about personal life"), as opposed to a particular diagnosis. It's no one else's business but yours and your mental health professional. End of story.
As I already said I know this now
Curious what country you live in? In the US, your medical information is protected information and it's generally illegal for employers to ask you information about it. I think certain fields have exemptions for this though... possibly the military?
This type of thing should be taught in schools.
Some people need accommodations at work. Like a nursing parent needs space for pumping and a fridge to keep the milk. Accessible bathrooms for people with mobility issues. I work near someone who has an umbrella looking thing over her workstation because the fluorescent lights give her migraines. Some need time flexibility to address medical issues, or perhaps the medical issues of child or aging parent.
All these would require having some sort of conversation with your employer. During a job interview is not the time to do it. You need to check with your country and local laws to know your employee rights. You want to ask for accommodations in such a way that doesn't put you at risk of getting fired or never hired to begin with.
Hindsight is 2020
People ask you your medical history during job interview? Where do you live?
(Also did you get the job?)
America, and for those jobs I didn't get it.
I think everyone else already told you this, but never tell your employer anything about your medical history or health unless you need an accomodation or time off. There is literally no benefit to doing this. Especially when it's something highly stigmatized, like NPD.
If they ask during a job interview, you need to be ready to lie.