Best of Blind
- Sick of the 9-5 [after being excited for it]
> When I was a new grad I was so excited to work the 9-5, thought I was gonna work on so many cool things and accomplish a ton. That obviously did not happen and these days it really feels like my entire job is to prove someone else’s impact. Everything feels meaningless and I’m absolutely sick of it, but this 9-5 grind is the only thing I ever envisioned myself to do. Does anyone else feel this way, and are there any routes out? What fields do people pivot to these days completely outside of technical roles?
- Blinder needs to consult a punnett square (and a psychologist)
Breaking up due to her height
> Everything is perfect with this girl I’ve been dating for 2 years. She’s cute enough and smart and makes good money. > The only problem is that she is only 5’3” tall (which is good for an asian), while I’m 6’4”. > Im scared she will give me short kids. My 6’3” uncle married a 5’2 Latina and his sons are all under 5’10. > Is this too shallow? Can some genetics experts tell me otherwise? She’s expecting a proposal this year and I love her but I also don’t want to mess up life for my sons.
Notable comment reply from OP: > Does 5'9 mean 5'10? Because that's short, especially for a son. Even all of my sisters are over 6'
Imagine, the tragedy of having a 5'9" son.
- How to find Western girls
> I found that western girls r beautiful and attractive, Ima a fan of Winona Ryder since around 20 yrs ago, watched most of her shows and movies and really like her eyes and noses. > > Ima a handsome man from 3rd country with 30+ yo, 96 pounds weight and 171cm tall, but Ima having difficulty finding one through tinder as tinder doesn’t show girls from more than 100mi and I can’t transfer to USA as my company doesn’t quite sponsor international transfer with L1B visa due to lacking HCs in USA, any tips on how to get a western girl from a non-western country? I really want to have a western girl plz.
Godspeed, emaciated Blinder! Hope you find the girl of your dreams.
- Blind has a new way to make money
Direct from Blind:
> We take anonymity seriously here at Blind. We understand you might not want to participate in some discussions because you want to keep some things private or avoid inadvertently revealing yourself. We hear you, which is why you can now hide your company name when you write a post, comment or reply. > > Here’s how it works: > > - Update your Blind app to the latest version. Tap My Page on the bottom menu and select Store. > - Buy (post) Hide Company with B Money. You’ll need one Hide Company credit for each post you want to write without your company name. (We believe purchases help prevent abuse.) > - Activate Hide Company when you write a post, comment or reply to hide your company for that post. > - You won’t need to use Hide Company if you work at a startup and want to post, comment or reply in the Startup Lounge. You can always hide your company name in the Startup Lounge. > - Your company name won’t be visible for the entire post, including all comments and replies.
One "Hide Company" credit costs $3.99. Please take special note of the fact that it hides your company and not your username. If someone recognizes your username from another thread, boom, anonymity lost. You have to change your username (which also costs money). Amazing work, Blind.
- Wearing FANG [sic] clothes while shopping
As a sales associate of luxury goods store, do you see customers wearing FANG likely to spend more or less (bay area)? Lets say you are in luxury stores like Hermes, Chanel, Patek Phillips, Rolex, etc
Poll options:
- Sales associates will like it
- Likely to be ignored
- Doesn't matter
- Blinder buries the lede
GF slept with more than 20 men!
> > > Yesterday I came to know that my gf has slept with 20+ guys (mostly hookups). She said that after her first break up she wanted to forget about her ex and her though process was “to forget someone you have to go under someone”. > Then she got some psychotic episodes. And she started sleeping with many men. She even dated a 32 year old guy when she was 21. > She said that she thought if she sleep with someone they might love her back. But they just used her. > > > > Then come to Jan 22 when she met me. And we started going out. I had just one gf before and that was puppy love. I never slept with anyone before. > Then after 9 months me and my current gf had sex. Then I realized that she was also texting some hot guy and kinda cheating on me. When i asked her she said that she was used to jump from guys to guys and wasnt sure that our relationship will last or not. So she kept backup. > > > > I feel for every problem she has lot of excuses. > But for last 7 months she has been super loyal to me and shown signs for love. > > > > I do love her alot but dont know what to do at this time. > > > > I was nice to her. Bought her presents, date nights. And i feel because of all that she got attached. > > > > I jusr don’t understand how can i ever be special to her. And how can i ever trust this woman. I feel there is nothing left for me from her physical perspective. > > > > Is it possible for her to ever love me? > >
Buddy, the problem isn't the people she hooked up with before the relationship, it's what happens during the relationship, and keeping a backup sounds like a red flag to me 🚩
- Jealous Blinder concerned about wife's high school reunion
Wife wants to meet ex-bf
> > > We're married for 10 years now and my wife wants to go to her high school reunion where her ex-boyfriend will be. I told her she shouldn't go, and she says that I have trust issues and that she's not planning to do anything. I don't understand why she wants to go see her ex-boyfriend from high school. Is this something that people are cool about? > >
Maybe... She just wants to go to her high school reunion? Sadly, no TC mentioned - we need both his and the ex-bf's to make an informed decision, of course 🙃
- Blinder only has 120k saved up, can't propose to their girlfriend.
> > > So my girlfriend wants me to propose, saying it’s time we get engaged and try living together. And then get married by end of next year. I am 26, she is 24 and we have been together for 4 years. I said I am no where near enough secure yet, and I want to get married by 29 - 30 and get engaged at 28. > > > > I started working only about 2.5 years ago and I’m located in Chicago, and have trouble saving barely right now. Also my girlfriend doesn’t make much, around 60k, and said we can move in to the my place and she will pick up bills such as vacations and other fun expenses while I continue to pay for main expenses due to salary disparity. > > > > My financials currently are: > 120k cash saved > 0 debt > 10k in 401k > $2-3.5k monthly costs > > > > Can I somehow make this move or am I right I am no where close enough to make this move yet. I also wanted to save an try to FIRE for myself, but she said I am over doing it and to stop worrying about money. > > > > What do y’all think? > > > > TC: 160k > YOE: 2.5 > >
- Blinder wants to open his relationship
Been with gf for 5 years, how to ask for open relationship?
> > > I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years, and I love her to death. But lately, I've been feeling bored. I'm not sure if it's because we've been together for so long, or if it's something else. But I've been thinking about asking her if she would be open to an open relationship. I know this is a big ask, and I'm not sure how she's going to react. I know this is a lot to ask, but I'm hoping someone out there can give me some advice on how to tell my girlfriend about this, I don't want to lose her, but I also don't want to stay in a relationship that's making me unhappy. > >
Notable comments:
> > > Like this: "I think we should break up ❤️😭" > >
> > > This isn't reddit, wrong app > >
> > > Tc? This is actually an important factor here. If your portfolio is sub 5m dont even think about asking unless youre ok with the relationship ending > >
- Marriage advice from a Blinder
Marrying before 30 is the biggest mistake for a man
> > > I see so many guys in their early 20s getting married. What they don't realize is that this is the worst time to choose a partner. Because women's looks peak at 23 this is also the time when they have the most options of guys to choose from, and everyone wants to be with them making the conpetition fierce, most guys in their 20s struggle to get a girl or can't get a girl at all, on the other hand a mans atractiveness peaks at 40 since its not based on looks but status, between the age mid 30s and 40s the tables have turned and now the guy as a lot of options to choose from, girls are not as atractive as when they were 23 and man are now at their peak. I was never that good with girls and always struggled, lost my virginity at 27, and 33 now and the amount of girls interested in me keeps growing year by year its insane, and it only keeps getting better, i'm dating 2 girls per week on average, in 1 month i can date the same amount of girls i dated during my whole 20s. > > > > Advice to the man under 30 is don't marry. Don't settle for what you can get in your 20s and be patient, doesn't matter if you think you are in love, you can fall in love much harder in your 30s with an even better girl, you got much more options to choose from and you can choose a much better partner. > >
Notable comments:
> > > Simps and 304’s be mad as hell in this thread but OP is on the money. Getting married anyways is the worst thing an American male can do. It is absolutely pointless and it’s not even a matter of IF things go south it’s a matter of when. Western women are so > coddled and used to things being given to them that it’s absolutely shattered their sense of reality. Every woman I’ve dated, no matter how much love/energy/time/money I’ve given them, remains unsatisfied at a core level because they are always looking over the fence. > > > > Go your own way men. Growth yourself, grow your bank account, grow your relationships with your friends and family, and if you get lonely sites like Seeking.com and escort websites exist. Trust me, it’s an absolute blast being intimate with a 10/10 for 1000 bucks for 3 hours. > >
(note: I have no idea what a 304 is)
> > > Objectively speaking what OP says is very true. > > > > Men should marry later. > > > > Men mature later. And as men gain more status and wealth with age, so are the options for partners increases > > > > Women should marry early. > > > > Women's looks go down as they age. (The ability to have children also goes down) Money and status won't get them more options in men sadly. On the other hand, more money can actually attract bad men. > > > > So men should marry later, and women should marry early for maximizing partner options. > >
Blinders truly are a catch 😬🤐
- Blinder doesn't understand women (and probably never will)
I'm 32 and still don't understand women
> > > Can someone actually legit tell me how to treat women if my goal is to be respected and not have a sexless marriage? No trolling please, I’m being dead serious. > > > > I’m 5’8, nice body, good face, but very unsuccessful with women long term. I’ve had some short term one night stands (10-15) and one relationship for 1.5 years all of it was through online dating apps, which are purely superficial and I truly have no social skills with women. All of my “success” has been completely superficial based and I’m completely fcked if I want a normal marriage. > > > > I’m seeking advice with how to actually treat women. I was at the casino talking to this girl at the roulette table and then her fiancé showed up and was a complete asshat to her but she got closer to him and seemed like she liked being treated like a dumbass. On the other hand maybe she wanted me to hit on her. It got awkward when her fiancé showed up at the table. I assume fiancé since I saw the ring on her right hand. > > > > I’m starting to think it’s entirely dependent on the woman. Like women who sleep around a lot, very promiscuous and don’t have a lot of money tend to like guys treating them like shit. Women who have no self esteem and think they can’t do better. Women who would cheat. Idk > > > > Can someone explain it to me like you’re my father and I’m 10 just learning about girls for the first time. I’m being dead serious. Assume I’m on the spectrum and have no idea what I’m doing. Shape my mind like I’m a kid > > > > Thanks > >
Notable comments (combo of useful and yikes):
> > > Please watch videos on "dating red pill", "fresh and fit" Youtube channel to understand what is the current dating landscape and how it has changed in the last 20 years. As you are shorter than an average man, you've your work cut out for you. Better to educate yourself to understand what is the landscape is like, where you stand, what current women your age are looking for, etc. > >
> > > Stop asking over and over your best bet is google and YouTube. No one should help you possibly breed. If you can’t figure out basic relationship dynamics at 32, then your genes should be removed from the pool and you should agree. No one is coming. Help yourself or be happy alone with yourself. > >
> > > There are many women in their 30s looking for a great partner. I feel like in my 20s it was more single men, now it’s more single women. No time like the present to find a great wife. > > > > So what works? Be authentic. Be you. Pursue your interests. Most of all, when you meet someone be very upfront about what you want. Kids? Career? House? Hobbies? > > > > Also, avoid casinos and bars or places where the vibe is more casual hookups. Take a painting class or a yoga class. Go to the gym! Go skiing. Hiking. That kind of thing > >
