Velociraptor @ Velociraptor @beehaw.org

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Damn that's such a nice blue! Thanks for updating with a pic. You look great!

Can I ask why you felt the need to comment something so dismissive and negative when you also readily admit that this just isn't targeted at you? I just want to understand. I don't think you intend to be hurtful, but that is indeed what's happening. Having to pass on the binary is a safety issue for a lot of trans people just as much as it's affirming and euphoric.

Why would it be a mistake? If you want to have blue hair, go for it. Life is short and dyed hair is for everyone.

I'd like to see the results if you feel like posting it!

As a FTM, I don't find there to be any specific endorsement of body views in the article. Rather, he is being transparent with who he has in mind, which is extremely helpful to someone like myself. It lets me know how to approach the text for my own use.

I think immediately dismissing the author as harmful merely because he's exacting in his disclaimers is a disappointing take. If it isn't applicable to you, that's fine. Going so far as to lob accusations over body image is pretty rough - more so when you're not the target audience. Finding good sources speaking to the FTM experience is so rare and it saddens me to see anyone want to tear it down right out of the gate.

I'm about to go on a two week trip to a bunch of places I've never been before! I'm super excited! Been watching a lot of the Katmai bear cam of the salmon run while I work on packing and some last minute chores. I'm excited to visit some places that are a bit more accepting of trans people than where I currently live, too.

Congratulations!! I am so happy your loved ones are accepting!

I find this kinda fascinating because if you've thought this your entire life, you would have had to have read every intended plural "you" as singular and there would be nothing to inform you otherwise without very explicit context.

For the record, every 2nd person pronoun in the preceding paragraph can be singular or plural and still be grammatically correct while remaining socially correct for my speaking to an audience of unknown size. "You all" and "you guys" are slang phrases that don't appear in formal writing.

Far as I know, this is used for MTF so I'm not really sure where the income joke fits in.

Maybe using a cis bigot's words isn't the best way to show trans support. Hurts that you'd rather hear it from a trans woman. I guess this place just isn't for me or people like me. It happens. Pretty depressing though.

How far removed from the instigating post is that? It doesn't seem all that different if we're immediately diving into fuckables and unfuckables.

Can you explain the girldick thing? I'm a transman and that comes off as one of the many things that are low key alienating in expressions of support, but it's possible I'm just mistaken.

Traditional and digital artist here. I do graphic design and illustration. Have always had a healthy interest in tech, though.

Since the worst examples I can think of have already been mentioned, I'll just throw in that Boku No Hero Academia is making me pretty sad these days. It's like they decided to stretch out a few things that were shorter in the manga for a reason and it's gone on for so long that it doesn't feel like the same story at all anymore. I miss what the show used to be.

ETA: Ascendance of a Bookworm was really fun right up until she decides to dump everything in the trash and join the church.

I made a list of names I've always liked and found I kept coming back to one in particular, so that had to be it.

"Someone who doesn't identify as male or female" has worked with my boomer family.

I am from a very catholic family. Before I knew what or who I was, I had family members use religion as abuse to belittle and degrade me from the age of 6 onward. My home life was awful and extended family piled on to make sure I really had nothing left for myself to cling to. I was kept on a cycle of love bombing (with church approved rewards only) when the constant insistence on my selfishness and awfulness would periodically succeed in breaking me. It made life entirely unenjoyable by design. Yet the programming they instilled also came with heavy guilt designed to keep me trapped by "faith."

I understand the fear of knowing you need to leave. The abuse ramped up every time I even remotely suggested I be able to live without the church. But my only regret is that I wish I had done it sooner. Religion doesn't stop you from coming out. The toxicity that it bakes into the community and your family does. They make it very hard and painful to stand up for yourself and advocate for life to be the gift it is. As with many such things, the cruelty seems to be the point.

All I look for Is a willingness to speak to others in good faith and for there to be a referee intervention when that isn't respected. "Safe space" has been so twisted and ridiculed that it's hard to use it and not feel some of the inflection of entitlement that's been imparted to it. Safe for me is an end to needless hostility in conversation and being able to talk without someone else launching a curio cabinet of their favorite ad hominems at you. So far I've found beehaw to be a bit more in line with this than tildes, but both communities have a lot of room left to establish what they want to be.

...You are agreeing with me. Sapience is what you are describing. Cats are sentient, not sapient.

The proposal being made is to keep your pet cat(s) indoors. That's it.