Yeah, I agree with you on pretty much all points. All I can really do is see my peers or juniors who may be at risk of falling into the darker corners, and try and bring them into my circle before that happens, but I only have so much time and energy, and that only helps the ones who get seen before they fall
On that last point I think part of the issue is positive masculinity needs to be tied with self love/empowerment. The focus on toxic masculinity has overall been negative and easily spun as "men are toxic" (even though the people who'd benefit most from positive masculinity would be men themselves). Men are struggling because its hard to find a way forward that society accepts and supports
Tbf, after having dealt with narcissist in my own life, I've realized you dont really have to be smart to be good at manipulation, being shameless and willing to lie through your teeth does a pretty good job with people who dont want to get dragged into things, which is most people, the lies dont have to be particularly well thought out. So while Trump has done pretty well for himself as a conman, it doesnt really prove he has any type of intelligence.
Dude they even said that Zwarte Pete is being phased out because while Zwarte Pete themselves in the context of only the Netherlands wasnt very problematic, the fact that the world is more globalized and Americans who HAD been hurt by THEIR history of Blackface took precedence over an overall positive tradition for people of the Netherlands. Nuance exists, and American history is not WORLD history
Cool, union busting is unfortunately one of my own battle lines, so hopefully this means I wont have to avoid Starbucks for long! (Because yeah, I guess I am avoiding them now)
I hope you're right with the Tankies, and yeah, I'm not really going to let anyone take an identity/descriptor from me with my own autism, even if the people attempting to do so are also on the spectrum. I never noticed the ratio difference of Americans to Non Americans, although I guess as a Canadian I'm not sure where I fall on that ratio xD
I dunno if I have much further to add in this conversation, I mostly just wanted to respond to show I've read and appreciated your own input!
Ideologically thats nice, real world logistically, it was nice being able to easily track down a liquid snack on my normal commute to work, a timeslot which usually doesnt give much room for investigation and testing
and further, it being a chain meant if my commute ever changed or I wasnt in the area for whatever reason, I could still hit up another location easily and get the same treat
On the autist point, is a bit of a side tangent, but I hate that they've decided I cant fucking use my childhood diagnosis anymore because the guy who termed it was a Nazi, even though before this decision the name Asperger NEVER made me think of the Nazi, and only made me think of Autism. The DSM retired that diagnosis retired that diagnosis anyways in favour of making Autism a spectrum, so even if the asshats don't shit on me for continuing to use a term that was a useful descriptor for me since childhood, its still going to fade over time.
I wouldnt be surprised if conversations on reddit have gotten better if half the people who irritated me on Lemmy used to be redditors since the modpocalypse. I'm still having trouble feeling like I'm rewarding spez for his actions if I end up back in reddit though.
And finally on the conservative point, at least Conservatives are honest about hating gay people and minorities. The Tankies here screetch the loudest about slurs and protecting minorities and lgbtq people, but they support regimes that dont blink twice while crushing those same populations
Yeah I keep fluctuating between leaving lemmy and coming back due to its love for extreme stances, its the same type of vibe/reason I never really touched Twitter or Tumblr, but unfortunately reddit is now... reddit
Id say post strip scene puts her firmly at two. 1 mostly implies just the ears and tail being the change (the shit lemmy makes me say sometimes)