As a middle aged man you think its great for us? You think all the hot, sane, independent women in their 30s and 40s are strugging for options? If you're on there theres a 80% chance that you're no catch either.
Last time my dude showed me a bunch of profiles it was easily 50% "applications to be a stepdad" and 25% women with a checklist (6 foot tall, good living, own house, etc.) Like 6 foot tall athletic lawyers who own their own home are having trouble meeting women.
I dont know your wife or her family so pinch of salt and all. But it sounds like cigarettes are a safety blanket back before marriage, mortgages, dad was alive, kids... they dont judge, they help with stress and they give you an excuse to give yourself a 5 minute break now and then.
You arent wrong to be upset but empathy and understanding will go further than bitching and guilt. Addicts are the worlds best excuse makers and the "Oh FUCK HIM" impulse is real.
"Hey, can you move your bag so I can have that seat?"
Is a profound lack of give a damn about how uncomfortable I make other people. They know what they are doing, quietly signalling that they dont want anybody sitting there. Other people who do have social graces will stand around quietly staring daggers and silently judging, Im just gonna make this shit awkward for the both of us.
Having been a new parent and having a stressful job at the same time, I am absolutely guilty of enjoying the peacefulness of grocery shopping and just... spacing the fuck out.
For that hour (that could have taken 10 minutes) nobody is up my ass about something. Ive already been given the task (grocery shopping) and until thats done nobody else is trying to heap shit onto my plate.
Honestly where the fuck are the gangbangers in all this? All that talk about fuck the police and how hard they are and all and there hasnt been one incidence of ICE being rolled up on by the westside crips.
As a Petrolhead, new noises mean "I hope thats a part I want an excuse to need to spend money on."
Really, yes it needs brake pads and rotors, but thats like $300. For $300 I got a set of calipers, near new rotors and barely used pads off a facebook group member breaking a higher spec model, then spent another $200 on braided brake lines because its basically no more work if I'm doing the calipers anyway.
Ive always put it in the very crude fashion of "They are both going to fuck us, but one of them spits on it and goes in gentle the other one wants us to struggle."
Free, online "shooter", good community, runs on linux, gameplay is dated and doesnt get tons of dev support anymore but its still how I kill an evening once or twice a week.
I had this discussion with a work colleage about this. I can go as fast as a decent e-bike on a decent regular bike for short bursts. I can ride a regular pushbike for maybe 500m like a NYC bike messenger on meth before my pace starts to flag, maybe 2000m before I'm too gassed to do anything but cruise. The Ebike can do it for 20 times that.
And you also have to fight against the constant stream of hobby enthusiast content on YT. Between my fitness, cooking, car and maker subs. I cant get to literally all of the new content in one evening.
I can watch "generic cop show 47", "Generic Hospital show 82" or I can spend my night watching things I'm genuinely interested in.
Ha!
As a middle aged man you think its great for us? You think all the hot, sane, independent women in their 30s and 40s are strugging for options? If you're on there theres a 80% chance that you're no catch either.
Last time my dude showed me a bunch of profiles it was easily 50% "applications to be a stepdad" and 25% women with a checklist (6 foot tall, good living, own house, etc.) Like 6 foot tall athletic lawyers who own their own home are having trouble meeting women.