chat @hexbear.net dannoffs [he/him] @hexbear.net 1 mo. ago

I just quit my job and am moving back in with my parents to reevaluate my life and career.

Call it a third life crisis, but when I got out of therapy today I got a call from my boss and pulled the trigger. It's wild how privileged I have to be to be able to do something like this.

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Yeah, but you know what?

Good on you

I quit my customer service job after it started driving me to self-harm

Walked in one day, grabbed all my stuff, left a big note saying I QUIT on my desk, turned my phone off and drove back home

We shouldn't be driven to kill ourselves over this bullshit
- Thank you.
  
  It's not quite the same because I'm a "professional" quitting a job "at the top of my field" but I just can't do it anyone. I've dreaded coming into work every day for months and I'm just at a breaking point.
  
  I was in the same place 2 months ago. The first month after I quit was healing. I eventually looked back and realized it was the company, not the career, that was toxic. I don't regret quitting, it was kinda sudden but boy I was gonna burst if I had to go back one more day. Job market seems dry AF right now, but oddly I got 4 calls today out of the blue.
  
  Luck and healing homie
Better now than in another 10 years, trust me.
- I'm already at the point that I should have done this 5 years ago so I'm not waiting any longer.
i've quit a job that would have made me kill myself before. it's really scary and i felt guilty for having to do so, since so many people have it worse. but no one deserves to be exploited like that, and im proud of you for putting your health first since you are able to
Make sure you have an exit strategy. I did that once and just ended up in a cycle of abuse that spit me out in an even worse situation.
- I don't want to say a lot about it because its super privileged, but I have a soft landing with my family and enough support and money to basically have a clean restart.
  
  if you have a caring and financially stable family it is the strongest social safety net in the USA, even if living with your parents as an adult is mild psychological torture.
  
  I'm happy you have that option. My parents never accumulated any property or capital, and never really were together except for a few months. Both of them have less money than me, and I was raised by my grandparents, who I now care for (indirectly, without living with them, mostly through handling their finances) in their dying years. So I don't really have anybody I can move back in with in the event of that kind of emergency. In fact my dad moved in with me in my 20s because he was on the brink of homelessness. But be careful with moving back in with your parents as AntiOutsideAktion said, because you might get stuck in a caretaker loop as they age, unable to leave due to mutual dependence, you depending on their wealth, them depending on your youth. That would suck. It would still be better than not having any kind of support, but it is fundamentally limiting. I've got friends who got stuck as the "caretaker sibling". I don't have any siblings so I was always going to be the caretaker sibling hahaha.
Fuck yeah!
Same, but i got laid off.

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