Women of Lemmy Can a Guy be too muscular to be attractive?
Women of Lemmy Can a Guy be too muscular to be attractive?
I was talking to a female friend and young Arnold Schwarzenegger came up on conversation. I pulled up a picture of him and spent a long time looking at it. Then said "I am trying to decide if he is attractive.
I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff. Probably because they start looking like a man.
The Arnold picture
Edit yes I am a guy
The kind of hypermuscularity that body builders have looks unattractive on any gender imo and not just aesthetically. It also is a clear message that they will not eat taco bell and watch Pokemon reruns at 2 AM with me.
I'm not a woman. I find extremely muscular people unattractive among all genders. There's a point where it switches from fit to grotesque.
Weird that most of the comments here are about muscular women.
Yeah some people seem to be answering the question they want to not the one asked.
No, not attractive. That's a man who spends a LOT of time in the gym, looking at himself in the mirror. He eats and drinks weird stuff and possibly is on drugs that make him angry. Not my cup of tea.
That is a man who was the Govenor of California. Eats and drinks weird stuff? You mean healthy and lots of protein?
I think they meant stuff like pre workout mixes and post workout mixes. Hyper processed proteins, BCAAs, Caffiene, Beta Alanine, argenine, creatine, taurine, etc… followed by a chaser of a dozen or so pills like ZMA. Then of course the HGH, T, Sermorelin, Ipamorelin, & CJC-1295.
Aside from the wealthiest, body builders generally destroy their hearts and bodies filling them up with dozens of cheap suspect supplements that don’t have solid lab testing. And they are always pushing new frontiers on shady pseudoscience to get a fresh edge with whatever side effects that has on longevity.
Arnold got out before that part of the scene got super out of control. But even with him, you can see it in the way his forehead and gut shape have changed over time. The very clear signs he’s juiced, just probably under a lot more perfect control from medical professionals due to his wealth.
We hen it gets to veins popping out, count me out.
I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff
Speak for yourself
- A lesbian
As a fellow lesbian, there is definitely a cliff, but it’s post karlach. Personally the older I get the more I love a mom bod, but a jocky herbo type? Yeah I’m down. But once you get into bodybuilder levels yeah no. Though as I say this, it’s not the muscle, it’s the contrast of high muscle with low body fat. Because like, yeah powerlifters can get it, but when you start looking like Arnold with tits, nah.
- A lesbian
Speak for yourself.
- A dude
- A lesbian
Speak for yourself.
- A dude
- Michael Scott
As a straight dude, I concur
I like my guys to be cuddly. Ahnold ain't cuddly.
Curious does that mean you aren't attracted or just wouldn't want to date?
To an extent, both. I wouldn't say I have a strong sense of attraction to begin with, and conversely I'm not outside dating any guy if we grow into each other, but people of his type draw me in even less. If he had a different persona/aura (think Jareth) but retained his physical image, I may be drawn to him, but he is not mismatched with his physical image.
Personally, I do not find men (or women) that are as built as that photo of Arnold attractive. I do like nicely-toned arms though, I am definitely an "arms" chick, as in, I find muscular arms in particular attractive. But there's definitely a point where if the muscles are too big, it starts to be less appealing.
Yes. The amount of time a man spends in the gym to build muscles like that is inversely proportionate to how much time he has available to spend fortifying a relationship with a woman.
Nicely toned is probably ideal. But I prefer skinny than overly muscular like body builders. Tall and skinny or lanky was pretty much my type especially when I was younger. Now my husband has a bit of fat around the belly and I love that too.
Not into dudes, but my guy friends seem to like their men more muscular than my women friends
For science, it's cool. For snuggles, it's not for me.
Is this a question for straight women only or can a pansexual guy answer? Personally I've a thing for fbb's but with guys it doesn't do anything for me. Turns me right off.
What is fbb? Flexing big bisons?
Hazarding a guess with context... Female bodybuilders
You got ger those bisons to pose.
I think he was referring to female body builders. Though there are some other ways you could interpret it. Read at your own risk
I am not going to stop you from chiming in
I personally (bi man), like both really muscular women and men
Not a woman, but I am pan and no I don't find this kind of body attractive. In anyone. Normal tone where muscle is obvious, but not the main show so to speak, is the limit for me.
Not attractive at all to me. I don't mind if a guy is toned, but muscular is really unattractive to me. The thing with attraction is that it's individual, and I know some women who would love this look, I tend to like geeky guys, but I have friends who like big guys, bald guys, short guys, skinny guys, attraction is just super individual.
nb here; I had a co worker who was so attractive that it was difficult to look him in the eyes and we had to do pair programming together.
Do not like the Arnold level picture, but I like strong people. From my understanding of muscular & strong people, strength muscles =/= show off muscles, and you can be strong without spending all day at the gym.
No, that level of vanity is unattractive to me
Go look up thirst trap woodchopping videos or channels of people really good at whip cracking. The type of natty, muscular physique these people have is great.
Where I'm personally turned off is when people start to use steroids to go beyond how bodies look when they're natty jacked because of an active hobby or job (talking about the look---it's ok to get muscles at the gym instead.).
Fwiw, I'm strictly talking about muscles here, regardless of fat. If built, construction homies have a lean look or if they are a teddy bear, it's all cool with me.
TLDR; Steroids can make muscles unattractive.
Even though we generalize that we’re attracted to categories like men and women I think most people are only attracted to a handful of singular people rather than a whole gender (or a more muscled or less muscled subset of one).
I like fit guys, anywhere from skinny and wiry lean to strong and somewhat padded.
Bodybuilder not so much but those guys don't look like competition pictures when they are just walking around in the world. Yes of course there is a limit to what I find attractive but I do admire the physiques even of those I think too big.
I think my subconscious interprets fit as likely to survive and active enough to want to do things, but super fit as self-centered or obsessive.
Non-binary, but yes.
My preference is non-femboy soft twinks. Buff men are usually a turnoff with VERY few exceptions.
You think being muscular makes a woman look like a man? Sooo… muscles are for men only. And women should hide theirs?
Weird take.
I'm not agreeing with him at all but that's a strange jump to take.
I'd say that secondary sexual characteristics in women tend to involve body fat. Being in extremely good shape does affect that a little bit - breasts, hips, face, ass, - and some would see that as looking more masculine where I'd say they're just extremely fit.
Somehow roundness and softness is 'feminine.'
First off WTF?
Second believe it or not it's actually okay to not find certain physical or mental attributes attractive. Attractiveness of others differs for everyone. It isn't okay to then be mean or disrespectful to those you are not attracted to.
Weirdly enough if you read my post I didn't say muscular women were bad, I never said they should not be muscular and I definitely did not say women should hide their muscles.
So please just fuck off, thank you
Edit spelling
Really? So I guess using a swear word is toxic but everything this troll is saying isn't....
I understand what OP means. He (?) is saying that when a woman starts to have bulging muscles, a la the bodybuilder look, it isn't attractive, because their body looks more masculine and less feminine.
I feel the same way, I love the look of a toned, athletic woman, like the typical yoga or volleyball/tennis body, but when they start having visible definition and bulging muscles it don't find it attractive.
I'm a dude as well, as to OP's question, I've also heard that some women prefer the dad bod to the Arnold look because muscles aren't soft to lay on.
The most muscular women on earth had to take steroids to get there. The most muscular people on earth who don't take steroids are men (not saying no men take them; don't put words in people's mouths). So, I could see that line of thinking, but it's a needlessly prescriptive way of phrasing it.