Asklemmy @lemmy.ml Danterious @lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 mo. ago

What would be an example of a healthy online conversation?

I'm looking for any examples that you might have encountered and links to them.

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This one, that I just started.

The commenter after me ties their shoelaces very well, and I’m jealous.
- Thank you very much. It took a lot of practice to learn to do it so well.
  
  I initially joined this conversation to say that there would be no way for anyone to deserve such a great shoe tying complement, but after researching your abilities I must say that I stand corrected. Bravo on your fantastic ability.
- i learned a new shoe-tying technique and try to share it with others when they’re game
  
  I'm all ears. I usually just tie mine like a regular square knot
- Ian's Shoelace Site, baby!! I was doing granny knots for years before I found him.
- There's actual a great, short TED talk on tying shoes and the strong form of the typical knot used.
People seemed to appreciate the conversation in this thread about balancing privacy with the realities of wedding business marketing: https://lemmy.ml/post/7435311
Nobody cares, fuck you /s
Styleforum has plenty. For example, people congratulating each other on thrift store finds or helping each other learn about shoe care.
- Do you have a link to a specific post that you think shows this well?
  
  Not a specific post, but if you browse around there, you'll find one pretty early.
You can peruse my history. I ask a lot of clarifying questions to understand what people mean before I criticize their position.
- Do you ever get burned out on people not starting out in good faith? Like I used to enjoy back and forth, but a while ago I gave up because the majority are super defensive instead of inquisitive.
  
  That's exactly why I ask clarifying questions.
  
  Bad faith arguers usually won't answer a question because then they'd have to reveal they're arguing in bad faith. But that ends up being the tell anyway.
  
  There was a recent instance where I asked someone if they really supported free speech, which they arguing for in response to a Canadian policy that would criminalize calling for genocide. Really supporting free speech meant permitting calls for genocide against a group that included them.
  
  They never answeres the question about whether they supported calls for genocide that might include them. I asked them twice.
  
  In that case, it's easy enough to just stop responding to anything they say. They've outed themselves by not participating in the conversation.
- Anything you are particularly proud of?
  
  Uhhh not really
I had this one the other day, and it was even political

https://sh.itjust.works/comment/9636567
Not my comment history i spend a lot of time arguing with people.

I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.
- I'd say even arguing, so long as it's in good faith is healthy online conversation.
  
  What makes a conversation unhealthy exactly? I'd say mostly things like
  
  not arguing in good faith (common from the right wing)
  
  not respecting other commenters perspectives
  
  insulting others
  
  calling them liars without evidence
  
  tribalism and group think
  
  getting unnecessarily heated
  
  needing the last word
  
  ganging up on people
  
  I have a tendancy to call people cunts. Idk why the americans get so mad abt it for me its just a common greeting.
- I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.
  
  Ur wrong and smelly.
  
  Your mother is a hamster and your father smelt of elderberry.
Why, OP? What do you need them for?
Actually, a lot of conversations here are quite healthy imho. Outside of meme-communities that is. Sometimes I’m on Reddit because on here there’s not really a flashlight 🔦 community. ~~People~~ comments over there used to be constructive, sometimes obviously satirical - now there’s just trolls and mean people.

Edit: made the ~ to ~~
- I see posts on 'all' from a flashlight community fairly regularly on here, but I just lurk because I don't think my Lepro is up to their standards.
- Double tilde (~~) for strikethrough, friend.
  
  _People vs. ~~People~~
Most of the threads in !casualconversation@lemmy.world
https://feddit.de/comment/8071252 https://infosec.pub/comment/5269310 https://programming.dev/comment/5789966

These are just some random threads I saved. As others have pointed out, niche communities are (usually) the least toxic. Applies to any site or chatroom.
- This one's full of examples https://lemmy.world/c/bestoflemmy
  
  Hi there! Looks like you linked to a Lemmy community using a URL instead of its name, which doesn't work well for people on different instances. Try fixing it like this: !bestoflemmy@lemmy.world

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