3w ago

when did you realize you were gay??

i was straight for a long time until i dated a masc-presenting enby (masc + neutral terms) and realized i was ok with having boyfriends and dating guys and masc people. now i don’t even know if i like girls so i’ve come full circle or whatever…

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For me it was about 6-8 years old. Ofc I had no clue what being gay or sex was, but I was very much attracted by boys at that age, and specially, when I saw very muscular men, it made something tingle inside me.
I had a strong feeling of being bisexual in high school. Was totally open about it but nobody listened because I was a virgin.
Who said I'm gay?
- You are gay
Start of college, I kinda just realised that I like men too. Then that grew to I guess I like everything so now I'm pan.
had a sleepover with my best friend when we were 13. I always thought he was good looking. once I saw him change, I thought he looked kinda cute. right before we went to bed, we were roughhousing and he got on top of me. that's when it really clicked to me
I liked watching wrestling just to see all the muscular guys... Also, in school, I crushed on a few guys.
Though when imagining a family, I always pictured myself with a girl. Seeing myself with a guy was just.. weird and a little bit uncomfortable. I think that was internalized homophobia. When I imagine a "family" now, I definitely see myself with a boyfriend and not a girlfriend. In fact, I find the opposite now, picturing myself with a girl gives me the "yikes, disgusting".
- trans guy here, i used to think seeing myself with a guy was also weird until i realized i liked girls. i thought i was gay but i just realized im bi

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