1mo ago

What are the dumbest things you believed before you came out or when you were baby trans?

Want to know some of the weird and wrong things you believed back then. I used to believe a lot of dumb things, some of them were dumb in a funny way, others in a hurtful right wing way, but many of those things were wrong and pretty dumb looking back.

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That a person had to reject or be distressed by their natal anatomy or natural hormone levels in order to be trans. I'm Non-Binary, and therefore trans. People might think I'm a cis woman pretending to be trans since I am AFAB and I don't take hormones or desire any surgeries, but I'm still trans, because NonBinary is trans and I am not cis 🏳️‍⚧️
- That hadn't occured to me as a cis dude. Thanks for pointing it out!
  
  You're welcome :)
- @SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world I wonder what the distain towards my comment is. Do you disagree with the assessment that NonBinary is trans or are you just downvoting everything I post in communities you aren't banned from?
  First one is transphobic, second one is harassment. Both are bannable offenses here.
  https://lemvotes.org/comment/lemmy.dbzer0.com/comment/19334280
I thought that I had to be a binary women if I transitioned :3
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I thought alllllll the trans people I ever knew about, just kinda luckily happened to be born looking that way? Nobody ever told me about like... transition stuff, hormones, etc lolll
The main misconception that stopped my egg cracking was that trans people "always knew" they had the wrong body, whereas I, clearly male (look, I've got a dick and everything) merely wanted really badly to be a girl. Totally different, ah well.
Also I was really strongly opposed to cosmetic stuff: surgeries, tattoos, piercings etc. Like, easily deal-breaker level. I always thought it was kind of a weird hangup and I should talk to someone about it, but I'd get panic attacks whenever I thought too hard about it so kind of let it be. Turns out the reason I was so obsessed with body modification was because I wanted to change mine and I was jealous of anyone else who could.
And just the general misogyny that comes from growing up in an almost exclusively male environment.
- I had that too, I also just didn't know just how badly I wanted to be a girl until I met a really good friend who I learned was trans (and was also in the right state of mind not to immediately push her away), questioned my own gender, then experimented with she/her pronouns on myself and learned yup totally want to be a girl, really badly too. I also doubted myself a bit since I'd heard that you need dysphoria, but that didn't last long because I realized my chest dysphoria very soon after that.
I didn't think transition would help as much as it did. I didn't even know this much happiness was possible.
that i would still feel the same inside just look more how i wanted.
- Do you mean you feel different now? In what way?
  
  I feel so different it's astonishing. I'm dialing in my HRT for mono therapy right now and I was able to tell when I had test in me because it changes the nature of my thoughts!
  In general i'm much calmer, more inclined to get along with my partner and family, and i just feel more connected to the things i care about. Violent thoughts/power fantasies have vanished. My partner says i'm much more mellow and cheerful and easy to get along with.
  A bit of that is just depression from dysphoria being lifted but it definitely changed who I am, and much more than I thought it could. I had no idea that so much of what I thought of as personality came from hormones!
  The one quasi-negative is I went from horn-dog to basically asexual. Absolutely zero desire for sexual anything although i'm not repulsed just disinterested now. Having to maintain function is an absolute c h o r e.

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