Am I a dick if I don't want to meet an old friend for coffee if she brings her babies along?
Am I a dick if I don't want to meet an old friend for coffee if she brings her babies along?
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.wtf/post/22048899
An old friend/aquaintance I've not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she's had two babies by two different guys. They're ~6 months and ~2-3 years.
She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I'm not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I've frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it's something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she'd be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she'd have to bring the kids along.
I don't want to be a dick but I'm really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They're mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don't really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.
AITA? How do I tell her I'm really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?
Why not meeting up in a park or anywhere with some attraction to kids? They will still need and have attention, but at least they're not crying. Perhaps she should pick the place, if you communicate assertively about it...
Unless you were 1oo% sure you don't want to be anywhere near kids. Then, that's it...
PS. Do have an pre-made excuse to leave early in case you find things unbearable at some point :P