1d ago

Did you even say 'thank you'?

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While this person definitely sounds like a giant douche, it is in fact best practice to send a thank you email after an interview.
- Yeah, it's unfortunately good advice. Hearing it from a hiring manager in a "dance my puppet" way makes me want to vomit though.
  
  The asshat in OP's image isn't representational of people who hire people in the average, every-day world.
  In reality, most hiring is done by mid-level managers who have to interview dozens of people a week on top of doing their own work, and it's tiring and you don't get paid extra for it, and if you pick the wrong candidate your own ass is canned.
  Yah, it really does help your chances if you show even a shred of actual desire to work there.
- Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, I wouldn't want to work for anyone who expects one and I'm glad that me not sending one cements that. I also don't do cover letters. A resume is already a summary of the exact information you're asking for in the application (and going to make me repeat as if you never had a chance to see it beforehand in the interview); a cover letter is just another step, summarizing the resume. If you can't take the time to even look through my resume, don't bother, you're probably too "high speed" for me in your "fast paced work environment" and I'm not looking to "wear multiple hats" to earn your paycheck for you.
- LOL fuck that. We each shared our precious time. I will thank you for yours at the end of each session.
  Actually, this did remind me of the time that a recruiter gave me a thank-you gift at the end of an interview. He was very respectful of my time.
  
  The interviewee is getting an opportunity. There's a clear imbalance of power, but it's not wholly exploitative.
  That being said, I do remind my interviewees to not worry about my time during the interview, because I'm getting paid to be there, and it's more fun than a meeting.
  
  The interviewee is getting an opportunity.
  Yes, thank your masters for considering you for further exploitation
  This is normal
  This is good
  
  You know, you don't HAVE to get a job.
  Do you have a good relationship with your parents?
  Do you have any older, wealthier people in your neighborhood who expressed that you're attractive?
  Do you or your family have paid-off land that can be worked for sustenance?
  There are TONS of options other than working!
  
  🙄
  
  The idea that the person who gets nothing from an interview should be thankful for the opportunity is utterly brain dead.
  The other perspective is that after digging through literally hundreds or thousands of applications, I picked you and we both took a huge chunk out of our day to try to connect. Did you like the interview? Did you have questions after? Did I do a good job explaining the role? There's so much left unsaid after an interview that it does help to give a hiring manager closure, particularly if they have to interview a dozen other people that day. You're not dancing for my enjoyment, you're showing you care more than the 11 other people who shrugged and wandered off after without thinking about it. And the hundreds more in the following week or weeks.
  I'm just more likely to remember people who seem engaged and enthusiastic to work.
  
  FFS what's your colon smell like from the inside?
- Grovel at their feet from the beginning to show they can walk all over you in the future.
- It's so weird tbh. It's a mutual need, they want people I want a job — why don't I ever get an email thanking me for my time?
- To increase your chances send an additional email offering to wash your interviewer car for free. /s
  Just no.
  Say 'thank you for your time' when leaving the interview.
- I don’t think I’ve ever gotten the hiring manager’s email address on any of the interviews I’ve done throughout my career, as communication is usually with the HR recruiter for the entire hiring process.
- This. It's time consuming and it sucks, but it makes you stand out. Job hunting is truly half skills, half theatrics after all
  
  Lol half? I'd say about a 20-80 split.
  
  Throw in an extra 30-50% of networking/connections.
- I've hired (low) dozens of people in public sector environments, and neither myself nor anyone on my hiring panels has ever cared if we receive a post-interview thank you. Maybe private sector is different, but I'd just as soon not have you clog up my inbox with thanks or make a post-interview pitch about your skills/excitement.
  If you say thanks in the room, we're square. Likewise, I always thank people for their interest and time in the role.
- if a thank you email is the difference between being hired and not, you are a cog
  keep your resume up to date
- Not in software development. Maybe in other career paths though.

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