AITA for telling my friend that our other friend’s husband doesn’t like her

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/aliasfakenam3 on 2023-07-27 16:07:09+00:00.

I (27M) has a friend, Faith (26F), who I’ve been friends for almost 11 years now. Throughout our friendship, I noticed some of Faith’s behavior that kinda bit of annoying (for me at least). But despite of that she’s been a great friend throughout those years that we’ve known each other.

Faith and I have this other friend, Joy (28F), who has a husband, Fred (22M), and been married for four years.

Back in 2021, Joy and Fred had their 1st anniversary and held a small gathering. Faith and I were invited and so were some our other friends. It was a small party with food, alcohol, and karaoke. And as the night progressed, most of the people are either drunk and/or already left, including Faith. I stayed for a while and offered to help clean up a bit. During the clean up, a bunch of topics were opened, and one of the topic was Faith.

Faith is a great singer and most of what people were saying was about that, complementing her singing, but not Fred. He’s quick to point out that Faith’s a bit of annoying, prude, and such a pick me girl. Joy smack Fred’s forearm and laugh. I too laughed, but more of a faked laugh. Then Fred says, “What? It’s true though, that is why I don’t like her that much.” I just ignored it and continued cleaning up.

Due to the pandemic, a lot of us got lost in touch with each other and focused on our busy life, including Faith and I. She an I reconnect 3 months ago because she told me some news.

Now, a week ago, Faith and I made plans together to go to lunch. We talk about a bunch of stuff and one of the topic were about Joy and Fred. Then I remembered what Fred said the night, and I am then contemplating about wether to tell Faith or not. Faith noticed that I wasn’t speaking so she asked if everything is okay. I said yes but also decided to tell her what Fred said. The moment I finished telling her the story I can saw her eyes tearing up, she excused herself and went to the wash room. I felt bad and regretted telling her that.

Last night I received a long message from Joy, basically saying how I was a bad friend and an asshole for bad mouthing her husband to Faith, and was it worth it to ruining 11 years of friendship for some gossip that happened a long time ago. Turns out, Faith confronted Joy and Fred when they went out on a dinner 3 days after we had lunch. And now I felt like an asshole for telling Faith that.

So AITA?