I would not want my first meeting with someone's mother to be on their deathbed. And as a grown woman, I wouldn't want my son's new piece of ass at my deathbed, either.
I definitely was a weirdo who didn't understand this. Girl I dated for two weeks shared she wasn't available because of a funeral and my stupid horny ass said, "I can go with you. It'll be like a date."
Yeah, barring some kind of established issue with hospitals.
Can't really hold it against someone when they have avoidance of a place that's damn near universally traumatic, even with the best possible outcomes.
I worked in the damn things here and there over the years, and I despise being at one as a visitor, even when it isn't to visit a patient. I'll do it when necessary, but I know how that little kernel of dread feels, so I can't blame anyone that can't/won't visit in a hospital.
My immediate reaction was that they're shitty person too. But I'd also do the same thing anon did and let them have their party.
But are they shitty? It depends how deep is their relationship ig. If she's the one you are going to marry then they're shitty. If the relationship is still in beginning phase, they're kinda like a distant friend and not necessarily needed to be with us in our hard times. I am sure anon's best bro is way closer to anon than his gf.
One thing I’ve learned after a year on lemmy: learn to block whole instances. Yeah I see fewer comments, but I also see fewer stupid ass, brain dead takes.