2y ago

Wtf is with all the blatant transphobia?

Edit I'm just gonna delete this soon. I posted it and made most of my comments while angry and looking for blood. yea a lot of cringe stuff got said on that post but I don't think my post is contributing anything to the sub other than anger, and possibly driving people away. Sorry to the people I snapped at, I hope yall have a good night🐕

The comments are full of people saying transphobic shit and op doubling down on his "making your trans partner feel dysphoric is fine" shit. He'll that pic was a re-upload from one of the mods here. What the fuck!!!! This is fucking 196 why are we out here defending blatant transphobia? People are in there calling trans people karens with a persecution complex, there's tons of defense of treating trans men like shit, "allies" telling trans people they're overreacting, all kinds of inexcusable shit. If this is how lemmy 196 is gonna be I hope this place crashes and burns

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If you think that's transphobic I feel sorry for your heart rate, it must never have time to rest. That's just somebody stating their sexual preference, albeit using insensitive wording. But sexual preferences against penis is not transphobic. It's just that, sexual preference, which is valid.
People are in there calling trans people karens with a persecution complex,
One person said this and the other comments rightfully jumped down their throat.
there’s tons of defense of treating trans men like shit
Not there was not.
"allies” telling trans people they’re overreacting, all kinds of inexcusable shit.
I'm trans and will say you're overreacting, a lot.
If this is how lemmy 196 is gonna be I hope this place crashes and burns
K, you can leave anytime you like. That's always been allowed.
- Pick me !!! Pick me!!!! Hey I'm one of the good transes pick me!!!!!
  If you didn't see the shit in that comments you weren't looking hard enough. Op openly admitting their abusive tendencies and lots of people saying that's OK, that trying to make a trans partner feel dysphoric is just a"preference ". Fuck off with your internalized transphobia, assuming you even are trans and not just some 14 yo 4chan edgelord who wants to own the transes or whatever
  
  I had the first comment in that post, I saw every comment thereafter. You're making shit up about what happened in those comments. Or I guess that's just how your warped view of reality interpreted it. Yikes.
  I used to be like you, angry at the world and blaming everyone but myself. I hope you come to terms with your anger and learn to process that instead of lashing out at others like you're doing. Meditation helped me, best of luck.
  
  It was clear to me that the boob part was in jest, just a joke about the fact that he is attracted to boobs while someone who is trans would not want them. Op made it clear that they would not want to be with someone who is a trans guy because they would be incompatible. Them saying this does not mean they would abuse a trans partner.
  I do agree though that many of the other comments are transphobic. I'm dissapointed that many of them were upvoted, it's a shame to see this community think like that.
I don't get it?
The OP was expressing how awkward sex would be with him being majorly attracted to boobs while the trans guy hates their boobs.
I don't think he literally meant he'd SAY THAT, especially on purpose.
Mostly I think he was saying it wouldn't be the best idea for him to date a trans man cuz he's not into dudes. He was just trying to be funny and paint a picture of awkwardness to explain why.
That's my reading of it, anyway.
Could you at least give some context?
- The person in the screenshot was being asked if they'd date a trans man, they gave that response. Which is to say yes, but that they have a sexual preference for femininity which would make it difficult as most trans men are dysphoric about their feminity especially pre-op. He said it in not the best word choice but the sentiment is not transphobic. Big "he a little confused but he got the spirit" energy.
  OP is going to tell you a bunch of other shit. Looks like the post might've been removed but what they're saying was happening in those comments did not happen. They just seem to be a very, very angry person.
- Person who made the reported comment said that in response to being asked if he'd date a trans guy, in a thread asking what straight guys are attracted to. Could have just been badly worded, but considering op's reaction to being called out, the other transphobes in the thread, and op agreeing with them, I'm gonna say no
  Here's a pic of one of the worse fuckers in those comments, I would've linked more in the post but idk how to link more than one. Op agreed with this take and said 6 out of 7 of his trans women friends were just unreasonably mad about their problems
  
  Can you explain what you find offensive about the comment reported screenshot you linked above? How is someone supposed to express that they would not want to date a trans guy? Or are you saying that the fact that they wouldn't date a trans guy is the problem?
  To be perfectly honest, you kind of seem to be exemplifying exactly what the person in the screenshot you linked here is saying - that you're attacking someone for expressing a personal preference, and that you're labeling this person for criticizing that behavior. I'm trying to understand your PoV.
  
  Thread was nuked, here's my response
  The full comment, not just one cherry picked sentence
  I hate to say it, but of the 7 trans women I've known, 6 have been like this. Everyone is the enemy, giant chip on the shoulder.
  I mean, I get it. I grew up very poor, and for a long time any time I saw a rich person I wanted to deck them. Even if they did nothing wrong personally. Because my life was hell and they didn't have to go through it, and they're passively contributing to the system that made my life hell. So I hated them.
  So yeah, I think trans people are just people, reacting to a hateful and cruel society in the way that any person would.
  It is difficult to stay friends with someone like that. A lot of trauma. And collateral damage. I know, I lost friends over my issues.
  Strangely enough of the 4 trans men I've known, none have been like this. Maybe they just internalized it.
Breathe
Hi, you had a comment deleted by moderators. I can see in my notifications "Good question, why don't you try answering it rather than..." but I can't see the rest.
Since there's no PMs available I created a magazine here where you can respond without getting banned/removed: https://kbin.social/m/Aesthesiophilia/t/228533/EndlessApollo
If you want
Edit: also anyone else who wants to cuss me out or something without being banned/removed please feel welcome, just don't spam
- I'm on mobile and busy rn so I can't do that, I'll just copy and paste my comment here and come back later
  Good question, why don't you try answering it rather than continuing to shit on the people you call yourself an ally to? If the answer is "I wouldn't date a non-op trans man" then just fucking say that instead of insinuating that you would date them and treat them like shit
  
  I would totally date a pre-op trans man if they were okay with me liking their boobs.
  Gotta be a pretty rare scenario, but if it happens, sure
  There's a trans man who posts some nsfw pics that I follow, and his philosophy is "please enjoy my boobs while you can, bc as soon as I can afford it I'm cutting em off". If I knew him irl, I'd enjoy the boobs irl. But even then, he'd have to be pretty nonchalant to not get triggered or depressed by my appreciation of his feminine body, so I dunno if it could work out. Not to mention the more masculine he gets (hormones, surgery, etc) the less I'd be physically attracted to him. So definitely a short term thing.

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