2y ago

“What’s so great about Hexbear? Why do people keep talking about Hexbear? What’s so special about this instance?”

Maybe it is more than an instance. Maybe it is an idea, a world-historical vanguard, light itself.

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I'm on lemmy far too much. I've noticed that exactly zero people from this instance has ever tried to argue with me or make any dumbass "actually" comments picking apart something I've said for no reason.
I've also gotten into multiple conversations with people here that cracked me up and made my night.
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- Yeah well, you're a secret vegan!
  POW!
- I've been considering it
- Damb, we're slacking guys!
  
  Sorry to bring the party down. But your mom's a nice lady, and your father loves you.
Hi there YSF!
The great thing about Hexbear I was thinking about recently is that pretty much all of our bullying is upfront and overt. None of these weird complicated social rules where people can disparage you and you're the asshole if you call it out. Crybullying is immediately recognized and called out, and tbh I think that's a big part of why we get a bad reputation because those types always run off to a third party for sympathy when people stand up to them and call them on it. And you never have to worry about, where do I draw the line on "Is this too political for this group?" I think it makes it a lot easier to navigate for everyone but especially for ND people.
- Very much appreciate it. I'm being open about my gender identity on public social media for the first time and I only got called a wrecker for it a medium bit
  
  I think the main reason you've been encountering suspicion or hostility is that a lot of people associate your gender with an old transphobic meme ("I identify as an attack helicopter"), and so they suspect you of being a right wing troll. I'll admit I wasn't sure myself because you used some unfamiliar terms like dronegender and swarmgender, and I didn't find anything about them by googling, but once you used more familiar terms like plurality and otherkin, I was more inclined to think you were genuine. Unfortunately, I think you're likely to encounter that kind of suspicion in many trans-friendly spaces, until you explain or demonstrate knowledge of something a troll probably wouldn't know about or understand, such as plurality. We also haven't had a lot of otherkin or systems here before, and when people encounter something like you that's outside of their experience, they try to fit it into something they're more familiar with.
  My advice would be to spend some time hanging out in the general or queer megathreads, which are generally more chill. I think the more people get used to you and see that you're interested in being a part of the community, the more people will see you as acting in good faith. Also, if you ever get too frustrated with Hexbear, it's a good idea to get some space for a while. Usually when that happens with me, it gives me some perspective and reminds me what I like about this space.
  Anyway I'm sorry you got that reception and I hope you don't hold it against us.

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