I'd like to host a game night for friends and family where we play games like jackbox. I'd like to self host the service and give anyone a url and possibly a user name/password combination to access it. I'd like audio and video support as well as the ability to screen share and have a text chat option. I know there are a couple of services that do some of these things but does anyone know of an option that part offers all of this?
+1 as a discord replacement though, if op wants all in one then jitsi sounds like the way to go, but if they're looking for a drop in discord replacement revolt has been making progress
Revolt is a matrix-compliant client and server combo. It's easier to deploy than synapse+element but obviously you miss out on some fringe features. There's also the issue that a lot of the hard parts of setting up a matrix server are due to the video part.
Since OP wants video chat and screen share first and foremost, and since revolt and matrix both use jitsi for this, OP can use straight up jitsi and set up matrix/revolt later.
Not only do they not federate, they also seem to suggest they are not making the self hosting option as easy as it could be because they would prefer one instance that everyone connects with.
It seems pretty solid otherwise, and the self hosted option can work if you are willing to spar with it, but that position makes it super easy for one organization to buy or somehow influence all the primary devs and turn the project closed in no time at all.